Uncuffed: Bulletproofing the Police Marriageಮಾದರಿ

# Am I Your Priority? > The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. > 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 It’s not uncommon to naturally drift toward what interests us. Some lean toward career and achievement, while others focus on the home and family. There’s nothing wrong with these pursuits unless they become your priority. We’ve already talked about Genesis 2:24 where it says that the two shall become one. When you take someone as yours, that’s a clue that it’s pretty important and deserves to be prioritized. Priorities must be proven in real terms, not just words. One of our pet peeves is when someone says, “I love you more than you could ever know.” Why? Why can’t you tell them, or better yet, why don’t you show them? During a rough patch in our marriage, I was so focused on the goal of getting the job done. It was rare that Leah and I spent quality time together, much less did anything special out of our struggling routine. The more I misunderstood her sense of rejection as resentment, the more I pulled away because I thought she didn’t care about how hard my work was at that time. The reality was, she didn’t resent me, but she did suffer from being relegated to second or third place in my life. I wanted to put her on hold until I fixed the issues at work. But guess what? After that tough situation there was another tough situation, and so on and so on. It wasn’t until a confrontation caused me to stop putting her on ice while I rushed out to save the day, and returned to place her first so we could resolve it together. Our spouse is our priority in good times and bad. Even if it’s your spouse that’s causing the bad times, they must still be your priority. Here are some practical steps for ensuring that your spouse has no question beyond the shadow of a doubt that they are numero uno. * Sacrifice – “I will give this up for you.” * Time – “I will spend quality time with you.” * Energy – “I will meet your needs.” * Attitude – “I want to be with you.” CALL TO ACTION: Apply to each of these ways to show your spouse that they are the priority in your life. Write out ideas to put each of these four into action: Sacrifice – Time – Energy and Attitude.