Stay connected to others; they make life meaningful.

One of the biggest components of our ministry here at The Life of a Single Mom® is ensuring that no single mom walks alone. Now, we know that no single mom actually walks alone because Christ walks with her, but we also work hard to ensure mothers understand the importance of building a tribe. It's been said that the world has never been more connected (digitally), and we have never been less connected physically. We have instantaneous access to chats, direct messages, and online 'friends' but often lack the meaningful connection that builds lifelong friendships. And the lack of real, authentic relationships leaves us exhausted, as we fear we carry life's burdens alone.

Connection takes intention. It is doubtful that the Lord will randomly rain friendship manna from Heaven onto your doorstep. The connection will take some effort. Yes, many moms are tired. Yes, we juggle many duties. But the joy of friendships sparks an excitement in our lives that cannot be found elsewhere. Attending the church gatherings when tired often results in great new friends, laughs, and joy we didn't expect.

It is important not simply to connect with others but to stay connected to the “right” people. Find the people who listen, show up, remain honest (even when it's hard for you to hear), and are growing in the Lord, seeking His face with the same vigor you are. Having trouble finding those people? Here are a few tips:

1. Get plugged into a church. Online church won’t do. While online services may be convenient during an out-of-town vacation or a sickness, they should never be a replacement for in-person worship. There is nothing like the gathering of the saints. Power and accountability are found in the gathering. New friends can be found there. Prayer partners can become life partners. Have you been hurt by a local church? Find another one. Do not allow Satan to pull you from the gathering.
2. Join a Bible study. Many of us attend a weekly service in our community, but our engagement ends there. We sit in the same seat in the same area of our local church and cringe when the pastor prompts a time of welcoming others in the service. We sing our three songs, listen to the sermon, and bolt at the first opportunity. It’s time to dig deeper. Engage in mid-week services. Attend the Sunday school class or connect group. Join the cooking or homeless ministry. Areas of service and Bible study groups are an excellent way to find like-minded friends. While the friendships may not forge immediately, stay connected.
3. Join a Single Mom Support Group. You may think this is the same as a Bible study, and while sometimes it can be, it can also be a new sisterhood of women walking through the same season of life as you. Our ministry has worked with over 2,000 churches nationally to create a specific place for single mothers to fellowship in local community churches. These groups often offer life-giving relationships, networking opportunities, discipleship, and more. When you finish this devotional, be sure to check out The Life of a Single Mom's website to find a group near you.

Points to Ponder:

• Have there been opportunities to gather at your local church that you have avoided? Why? Might attending the events yield more opportunities to form friendships?
• Consider the people you surround yourself with. How do you feel after having a conversation with them? Do they bring life or death? Are they edifying or discouraging? Are you surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals?
• How do you currently stay connected to others with intention?
• Have you ever considered a single moms’ Bible study or support group? Why or why not?