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SACRIFICIAL SERVICE AND PROVISION: LOVING THROUGH SERVICE

God's love for us isn't just emotional—it's active. He doesn't just feel affection for us; He demonstrates it through sacrificial action. "By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers," John writes in 1 John 3:16-18, connecting love directly to sacrifice and service.

As fathers, we have countless opportunities to demonstrate God's sacrificial love through how we serve our families. This includes working hard to provide for their physical needs, but it goes far beyond just bringing home a paycheck. It's about being generous with our time, energy, and resources to serve their growth and flourishing.

Sacrificial service might mean getting up early to make breakfast when your wife is sick, even though you're tired. It could be choosing to coach your child's team instead of playing golf on Saturday mornings. It might mean putting money aside for their education instead of upgrading your car, or spending your evening helping with homework instead of watching television.

My Dad was a servant to my mom and me and my sister. He set a great example. He sacrificed for all of us and he loved doing it. He never showed resentment. He showed love. He set a great example for me and my son. We both wanted to be like him.

But here's what makes this truly reflective of God's character: this service flows from love, not duty. We see in Hebrews 12:12 that Jesus endured the cross with joy because of His great love for us. God doesn't serve us grudgingly or with resentment. He sacrificed for us with joy. He delights in providing for us, in meeting our needs, in going above and beyond what we deserve. When we serve our families with joy rather than complaint, we give them a glimpse of how their heavenly Father feels about caring for them.

This also means we serve their emotional and spiritual needs, not just their physical ones. We listen to their problems even when we're tired. We engage with their interests even when they bore us. We create traditions and memories that require our effort but build their sense of security and belonging.

Sacrificial provision also means we're generous in how we share our resources—not just with our immediate family, but in ways that teach our children about God's generous heart. When they see us give to others in need, support our church, or use our resources to bless people beyond our family, they learn that everything we have is ultimately God's and should be stewarded with open hands.

The goal is to demonstrate through our actions that love isn't just a feeling—it's a commitment to put others' needs before our own comfort and convenience.

Reflection Questions:

1. How do your children see you serving the family versus being served by the family?
2. In what ways are you generous with your time, energy, and resources for your children's benefit?
3. How can you better demonstrate joyful service rather than grudging duty in your family responsibilities?

Next Steps:

• Identify one way you can serve each child's specific needs or interests this week.
• Include your children in an act of service or generosity toward someone outside your family.
• Ask your spouse: "How can I better serve you and support you in your role as a parent?"