The Intersection of Faith & Fertility – Your Faith Doesn’t Determine Your Fertility

Scripture: Hebrews 11:1 (NIV)
"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen."

There’s this quiet but dangerous belief floating around Christian circles:

“If I just had enough faith, this would happen.”

If you’ve ever felt that, wrestled with that, or been told that; please hear this clearly:

Your fertility is not a measurement of your faith.

Hebrews 11:1 reminds us that faith is not the guarantee of what we want; it’s the foundation of trusting what we can’t yet see. And sometimes, what we’re believing for... doesn’t come.

That doesn’t mean your faith is broken.

It means your faith is real.

Faith Doesn’t Guarantee Outcomes

It’s a hard truth: we don’t get to use faith like a formula.
We can’t manipulate God with our belief. And if we start believing that faith is just the right combination of prayers, declarations, and positivity; we’ve turned God into a vending machine.

But He’s not mechanical. He’s relational.

God doesn’t respond to our faith the way Amazon responds to Prime orders.
Sometimes the wait is long. Sometimes the answer is “not yet.” And sometimes, heartbreakingly, the answer is “no.”

But this we know: God is still good. Faith is what sustains us in the waiting and the no’s.

God Can Handle Your Questions, Anger, and Disappointments

You don’t have to fake it with God.

Bring Him your frustration. Your confusion. Your silence.
Bring Him the “this isn’t fair,” the “I’m so tired,” and the “why not me?”

He’s not scared of your honesty. He welcomes it.

The Bible is full of people who wrestled with God, Jacob, Job, David, even Jesus in Gethsemane. He doesn’t expect blind optimism. He invites authentic relationships.

So yes, bring your questions. Bring your grief. And keep bringing your faith even if it’s cracked and trembling.

Faith That Endures

The kind of faith that makes it through this journey isn’t built on outcomes. It is built on an active personal relationship with the Lord. It’s built on God’s presence. Meaning spending time with God. Having the conversations that your heart and mind are battling through. It’s an authentic faith that says:

“Even if the answer never comes—I choose You, God.”

And that kind of faith? It’s holy. It’s enough. And it’s deeply pleasing to Him.

What Sustains You?

Faith isn’t just belief. It’s something we stir and fight for.

Here’s how you keep your faith alive when hope feels thin:

• Engage with Scripture – Let truth anchor you on the days your feelings don’t.
  
• Worship anyway – Even through tears. Even when your voice shakes.
  
• Pray real prayers – Not polished ones. Real ones.
  
• Stay connected – Community won’t fix the pain, but it can carry you through it.
  *Join a small group. Volunteer with your church or local organization. Attend a marriage event.
  

Sometimes, the people beside you become the evidence of the things you hoped for.

Response:

Take a moment to ask yourself (and each other): Have I been carrying shame or pressure because I thought my faith wasn’t enough? Talk honestly about any spoken or unspoken expectations.

Use your note to write down any false guilt, name your questions, or write what God is showing you.

Reflection:

How has your faith been tested in this season?

Have you been believing the lie that unanswered prayer means a lack of faith?

What would it look like to trust God, even when the outcome is uncertain?

In your note write your thoughts, prayers, or fears. God isn’t afraid of them; He welcomes them.

🛐 Prayer

God, thank You that our faith doesn’t have to be perfect to be precious to You. When our hearts are tired and our prayers feel empty, remind us that You’re still near. Strengthen the parts of our faith that feel weak. Give us courage to believe, not in outcomes, but in Your presence. You are good. You are faithful. And You are with us. Amen.

"Faith isn’t a formula—it’s your foundation."