Solo Parenting as a WidowНамуна

In Psalm 77, the psalmist expresses a deep desire to remember and reflect on the mighty works of the Lord. This passage encourages us to intentionally recall the ways God has acted in our lives and the miracles He has performed in the past. Taking time to remember God's faithfulness can serve as an important source of encouragement and help strengthen our faith as we face new challenges.

In the same way, memories play a significant role in honoring and keeping alive the legacy of our loved ones. Memories connect us to cherished moments and remind us of the impact our loved ones had on our lives. They provide comfort, healing, and a sense of connection even in their physical absence. It is possible to keep their memory alive in a healthy way for our children. Talking about favorite or funny moments together, keeping out a cherished momento, or hanging some favorite pictures.

I know many widows that keep the family traditions they shared when their spouse was alive. These are cherished and special memories for their children, no matter what age they are. You may find that the first time you do those new traditions, it is unbelievably difficult, but also incredibly special. I encourage you to keep alive these traditions, and out of this, also to create new traditions as a solo parent. Our children learn from us how to react to tragedy and trauma and this can be such a healthy way to show them we can both mourn and also find healing.

Joy and pain often come in waves as we reminisce about those we have lost, but so does healing. We can embrace the journey of healing together with our children. With the tears, the laughter, and the stories. And most importantly, remembering that God is with us through it all.

CHALLENGE:

This week, take time to reflect with your children on a favorite family memory. Engage them by asking if they remember certain details. By your example, let them know it is okay to smile and laugh when thinking about those who have gone ahead of us. Talk about those traditions you shared and talk about how you will implement those traditions into your new journey.

JOURNAL:

Do as Psalm 77 tells us and write down some of the mighty works you have seen God do in your life and others. Start a running list. Then whenever you face something that seems insurmountable, go back to that list. It will help stir up your faith. If God did it before, He can do it again! Write out a prayer of thanksgiving to God for how he has helped you parent through grief.