Overcoming LustMinta

Get Help from God and Others

Don’t go it alone. In your struggle with lust, porn, and unwanted sexual behaviors, get helpand encouragement from Christian friends.This is a non-negotiable strategy for overcoming lust. You need a person or two to whom you can confess your struggles and who will help you remember you have been forgiven. You need someone you can call or text and tell you are struggling. Learn to reach out rather than act out. Doing this changed everything for me personally. A lifestyle that says no to secrets can’t sustain the many lies lust needs to stay intact.

Pursue mutual support and accountability.A practical step you can take is to obtain a web filter that blocks certain sites and sends the addresses of sites you visit to one or two friends.This internet accountability is a powerful tool to help you guard your eyes and mind.

Depending on the depth of the struggle, it can be wise to seek professional help as well. A pastor, a counselor, or someone with training in sexual addiction can help us deal with deep-rooted patterns.For example, John felt he had uncontrollable lust for women who gave him lots of attention. He never knew why until he explored childhood traumas with a counselor. He realized that his father never approved of him, but his mother was nurturing, accepting, and safe. When John realized that he had sexualized his deeper longing for safety, he began to seek healing for his hurt, remind himself of his deeper reasons for the temptation, and seek safety in God and close friends.

Seek God, who alone has the supernatural power to help you. Rely on Him throughout the day. Make a plan to spend rich and satisfying times with Him. Read His Word. Memorize and meditate on Scripture passages.

Honoring God with your sexual desires is a commitment. Commit to standing your ground at the edge of your territory. Don’t settle for anything less. Don’t tolerate anything that is questionable or marginal. Start today. Implement just one strategy that will help you move ahead. Just keep at it, step-by-step, and depend on the Holy Spirit to help you.

God, what action can I take today? Who can I call on to aid me in this struggle? Help me to build new habits and establish safe and healthy relationships. I want my life to glorify You.

For more help and resources on overcoming lust, check out resolutionmovement.org.