Things to Look for in a HusbandSample

Hardworking Man

From the account of the creation of the world, man is charged with the mission of filling the earth and dominating it (Genesis 1:28) or of cultivating it and guarding it (Genesis 2:15). God’s plan corresponds to the realization of man’s vocation. It is not a question of slavery, nor an obligation without foundation, but of a blessing, of happiness to live.

The husband’s role in the Bible starts with leadership but encompasses provision and protection. A husband will never influence his wife if he does not care for her. He can demand, and she may follow as a result, but he will never truly have her heart unless he provides for her needs, cares for her well-being, and protects her physically and spiritually. As Scripture says:

“Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” (1 Timothy 5:8).

“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them” (Colossians 3:19).

“Husbands, be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:7).

God loves His daughters and the children they bear. When He gives one of His daughters to a man, He desires that the man cares for her. In no place does Scripture teach or endorse that women and children be considered second class or inferior to men. Instead, He finds them so precious that He asks for special care to be given them, care that only biblically based men can provide. Women are very capable of taking care of themselves. However, God made men and women different; thus, due to the physical nature and strength God gave men, He has charged them with providing for and protecting their families.

If a man does not take care of his own, including his wife, children, and especially those who belong to his own house—that is, those who share the same household of faith as him—then, according to Galatians 6:10, he has denied the doctrine of faith and should be treated as an apostate from the Christian faith.

I pray that the Lord will divinely help you locate that man who is hardworking and deems it fit to always take the duty of provision seriously.

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