Thola i AppUkubhekana NokukhathazekaIsampula
Ubuyela kanjani emuva ngemva kokuthi impilo yakho ibisiyonakele?
“Ukukhathazeka nokwesaba kuhlobene kodwa akusiwona amawele. Uvalo lubona usongo. Ukukhathazeka kuyalucabanga. Ukwesaba kuyamemeza, Phuma! Ukukhathazeka kuyaczindla, Kuzokwenzekani uma? Ukwesaba kubangela ukulwa noma ukubaleka. Ukukhathazeka kudala inhlekelele nobumnyama. Ukwesaba kungukushaya kwenhliziyo okugxumayo lapho ubona inyoka ezisongile egcekeni lakho. Ukukhathazeka yizwi elithi kuwe, Ungalokothi, nanini, ekuphileni kwakho konke, uhambe ungafakile izicathulo otshanini. Kungase kube nenyoka … ndawana thize.” – UMax Lucado
Uke wabhekana nalokho? Kukhona okwenzekayo, into embi kakhulu, futhi uqala ukuzibuza ukuthi kuzothatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuthi leyo nto yenzeke futhi? Noma mhlawumbe akuyona into ethize, kodwa into efana naleyo?
Ungalindela ukuthi bonke abangani bakho bazokufulathela njengoba nje ngesinye isikhathi othile omethembayo akwenza. Noma mhlawumbe, ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho othile ezama ukusondela kuwe, ukuphela kwento ongayicabanga ukuthi, kuthiwani uma ehamba? Ngoba othile obekufanele abe khona ngenxa yakho akasekho. Ukukhathazeka kwakho kungase kungene nsuku zonke lapho uya esikoleni ngoba wabheda kulokho kuhlolwa futhi uhlala ubuza umbuzo, "Kuthiwani uma ngifeyila kokulandelayo? Ingabe abazali bami bazongithukuthelela? Ngizozithukuthelela mina?"
Uhlehla kanjani entweni efana naleyo? Lapho ukukhathazeka kwakho kuzalwa okuthile okungokoqobo nokubuhlungu? Lapho ukukhathazeka kujwayelekile khona kuqala ukuzwakala sengathi kuyingxenye yalokho oyikho?
Encwadini ethi, The Coddling of the American Mind, UDkt. Jonathan Haidt no-Greg Lukianoff bachaza "imibono emibi" eminingana esivamile emphakathini yanamuhla futhi ethonya abantu ngokubi kakhulu. Omunye waleyo mibono uthi: Okungakubulali kukwenza ube buthakathaka.
Lowo mbono uholele ekutheni abantu abaningi bazame ukuphila izimpilo eziphephile nezilula. Inkinga? Ukuphila okuphephile nokulula akusenzi sibe ngcono futhi akusenzi sibe namandla. Izinto ezenzeke kuwe zingasetshenziswa ngokuphelele ukukukwenza uqine, uzethembe, futhi ukuhlomele kangcono ukuphatha konke okunye okuzokuza empilweni yakho.
Umbono wesibili omubi abakhuluma ngawo yilo: Themba njalo imizwa yakho. Imizwa yakho ingeyeqiniso, futhi imizwa yakho iyasebenza, kodwa imizwa yakho ayilona iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi imizwa yakho akuwena.
Leyo imibono ikhonjiswe kahle endabeni kaJobe. Lona ngumfana ompilo yakhe yonakale ngendlela enkulu. Kodwa akazange avumele okwenzeka kuye kumenze abe buthaka, futhi akazange avumele imizwa yakhe imholele ekuziphatheni okubi. Wakhetha ukuvumela okwenzeka kuye kumenze abe ngcono, futhi wakhetha ukuthembela kuNkulunkulu ngisho nalapho imizwa yakhe yayimkhalela ukuba alahle ithemba futhi avumele ukukhathazeka okungenzeka ukuthi wayenakho.
Futhi, ungadidwa kakhulu yizingxoxo phakathi kukaNkulunkulu noSathane kule ndaba. Iphuzu likaJobe alikho mayelana nokuthi leyo ngxoxo yenzeka ngokoqobo noma cha. Indaba kaJobe imayelana nokubambana nobunzima bempilo, ubuqiniso bokuhlupheka, nokuthi sihlobana kanjani noNkulunkulu kukho konke.
Inselelo: Cabanga futhi uqaphele. Cabanga ngezinto ezimbi ezenzeka empilweni yakho. Lezi zikwenze waqina kanjani? Yazi ukuthi imizwa yakho ayisiwena, futhi ayikulawuli. Iyiphi enye indlela ongaqala ngayo ukulawula imizwa yakho esikhundleni sokuvumela imizwa yakho ikulawule?
Mayelana naloluHlelo
Ukukhathazeka akulungile. Ngeshwa, ukukhathazeka kuyiqiniso esiphila nalo. Lolu hlelo luklanyelwe ukukusiza uqonde ukuthi awuwedwa, ukuthi likhona ithemba, nokuthi uNkulunkulu ufuna ube nokuthula. Ezinsukwini eziyisikhombisa ezilandelayo, sizothatha uhambo ngeBhayibheli ukuze sithole ukuthi singaphila kanjani ngokukhathazeka futhi, mhlawumbe, sithole ukukhululeka nokuthula phakathi kwakho.
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