Kids or No Kids? 6 Tips for Having the Talk While Dating预览

Day 2: Tips for the Talk, pt. 1

“Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” - Amos 3:3

Whether you know you want to have kids someday, are certain you don’t, or aren’t quite sure how you feel, if you’re in a serious relationship, it’s important to have the “kids talk.” You want to make sure you and your partner are on the same page, especially before discussing marriage.

Here’s how to approach this topic with care, honesty, and respect, paving the way for a stronger relationship, no matter the outcome.

1. Jump Into the "Kids or No Kids" Chat Early

Getting into the “kids talk” early on is super important. It ensures you're both heading in the same direction and avoids any surprises down the line. It's better to know now if you're on the same page than to find out later when things are more serious.

Addressing this topic sooner rather than later also helps build a foundation of trust and openness. It shows that you're serious about the future and respect your partner's views. This transparency can prevent future conflicts and make sure you both feel heard and understood.

Finally, there’s no telling how many times you’ll need to revisit this topic throughout your relationship. As you grow together, your views on whether you want to have kids and when might change. So, the sooner you open up the discussion, the better.

2. Pick a Relaxed Time to Talk

The timing has to be right. Look for a moment when you're both relaxed and not dealing with other big stuff. Bringing up something that can make or break a relationship during stressful times is a no-go. A laid-back environment means you can both be real and honest.

Choose a setting that encourages comfort, like a quiet dinner at home or a peaceful walk in the park. This way, both of you can speak freely without distractions. Creating an environment where both of you are calm and attentive will make the conversation smoother and more productive.