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Compassion in Action

Do you see what I see? That’s an invaluable question when attempting to get on the same page during a conflict in a relationship. Our perspective often differs from those around us because we view the world through the lens of our experiences, beliefs, and values. How we interpret life is very individual. The viewpoint from which we observe the problem or issue is unique.

I often initiate an exercise in my office to help couples understand the differences in their perspectives. While holding a flat, rectangular object in front of me. I ask them to describe what they see. Sometimes, I have a husband and wife sitting next to each other, looking at it from a similar angle. Even so, they often describe it differently. Clients have suggested that it is dark brown, black, metallic, shiny, and resembles a black hole. Some have stated that it is a rectangle, while others believe it is a square. Some clients have provided me with detailed feedback on the dimensions. In this exercise, my clients look at the same object and describe it in very different ways.

I am observing the same object from a completely different angle. What I see is something entirely different. From my view, I’m looking at a very colorful 2004 calendar. This simple example suggests how perspective works: we look at the same object or circumstance but see something completely different.

If, in a relationship, either person isn’t invested in explaining what they perceive or listening to the other person’s viewpoint, healthy communication and emotional connection aren’t possible. Often, describing what we see just isn’t enough. We also need to become aware of the bigger picture, not only of what has influenced our point of view, but also of what is influencing the frame of mind of others.

Conflict is often the result of differing perspectives. Understanding others’ needs and respecting their uniqueness allows for a healthier resolution. Understanding others’ perspectives cultivates compassion. Recognizing their struggles and wounds helps us respond with empathy rather than judgment.

I Invite you to Ask Yourself:

1. Who in my life might need my compassion and understanding today?
2. How can I shift my perspective to better empathize with others?
3. What small act of kindness or listening could I do that might make a difference?

I Invite You to Pray:

Father, help me to realize that there are always two perspectives in every interaction I have with someone, whether it is someone I love or someone who is challenging for me to relate to. Give me Your perspective and fill my heart with compassion and understanding. Help me see others as You see them, and respond with love and empathy, rather than judgment over how they think and how they react to me. Forgive me for the times that I have not been willing to let go of my pride to consider another perspective. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.