The Art of Edification: A 3-Day Marriage Planਨਮੂਨਾ

Games People Play

"If anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." (Philippians 4:8)

Have you ever been to a party and watched someone play “Assassinate the Spouse?” The objective is simple: A contestant attempts to punish his mate by ridiculing her in front of their friends. If he wants to be especially vicious, he lets the guests know he thinks she is dumb and ugly. It’s a brutal game with no winners. The contest ends when his wife is totally divested of self‐respect and dignity; he gets bonus points if he can reduce her to tears.

Sound cruel? It is, even when it’s carried out under the guise of joking or teasing. It’s never enjoyable to watch someone take out anger against his (or her) mate in this way. In contrast, what a pleasure it is to spend time with couples who continually build each other up in front of others. When a husband tells his guests about his wife’s incredible cooking, patience with the kids, or promotion at work—or the wife boasts about her husband’s talent on the job or his ability to speak in public or fix broken pipes—you’ll see the other spouse smile a bit more brightly and stand a little taller. We’re always most sensitive to the comments of our mates in the presence of our peers.

The next time you’re out with friends, remember to look for opportunities to honor your mate. Leave the game playing to others.

Questions for Today . . .

• Have I embarrassed or hurt my spouse in public?
• How does my spouse feel when I praise him/her in front of our friends?
• In what ways could I encourage my spouse in public?

Prayer . . .

Father, I want to show my spouse love, honor, and consideration always— but especially in front of others. Forgive me for my failures. Give me grace to learn and change, I pray. Amen.

(Excerpted from Dr. James and Shirley Dobson’s book, Night Light for Couples. Used with permission.)

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