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Day 4: A Powerful Marriage-Building Principle

"Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another's feet." (John 13:14)

Husband, we're speaking especially to you today. Just as selfishness is a sure marriage killer, an attitude of service and sacrifice—the "I'm Third" philosophy—is an indisputable marriage builder. We urge you to study your wife. What is it that speaks to her heart? Are you providing that for her? Would she appreciate help with the dishes, vacuuming, or changing the baby's diaper? Should you be more romantic? Could you put off that weekend auto show so she can visit her sister? Maybe you'd rather go fishing on Saturday, but could you watch the kids instead so your wife can have a needed day out?

Jesus gave us a classic example of service when He washed His disciples' feet and told them to do the same for one another. Is it time for some symbolic "foot washing" in your marriage? Women are romantic creatures. God made them that way. Have you tried to understand that tender nature and sought to meet the needs it expresses? Here's the personal payoff: If you, as a husband, will address this romantic longing, your wife, being a responder, will be drawn closer to you. You'll get the kind of attention and admiration you hope for. Try it!

Questions for Today . . .

Husbands, ask your wives:

• When have I done a good job of symbolic “foot washing" in our marriage?
• Do you believe that I understand your romantic nature? Why or why not?
• Have I met your needs during the past week?

Prayer (for husbands) . . .

Dear Lord, I want to try to become an expert at meeting my wife's needs. Teach me how to serve my way toward a more fulfilling marriage. Amen.

(Excerpted from Dr. James and Shirley Dobson’s book, Night Light for Couples. Used with permission.)

Related Resource . . .

Husbands, would you like to bring a smile to your wife’s face today? Matt and Ariel Holcomb suggest doing something out of the ordinary. Stop by the store and buy flowers, or offer to cook her favorite meal. Give it some creative thought and demonstrate that you’re thinking about her.