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THE POWER OF A WOMAN IN DESTINY

Marriage involves blending of spirits, and that is why who you marry can make or mar you. The Bible warns, “Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings” (Proverbs 31:3 KJV). God Himself declared, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18 KJV). These two scriptures show the two sides of the coin: a woman can either multiply your strength as a divine helper or drain it until you are empty. Men often underestimate the power of a woman in destiny. The devil knows this, so he seeks to use the wrong woman to derail a man, while God raises the right woman to help fulfil His programme.

Eve was meant to be a helper, but by yielding to the serpent, she became the entry point of man’s fall. Sarah was ordained to birth nations, but impatience led her to push Abraham into birthing Ishmael, creating generational conflict. On the other hand, Abigail saved David from bloodguilt by wise counsel, and Elizabeth’s faith protected the destiny of John the Baptist. The difference is clear: a woman aligned with God multiplies strength; a woman yielded to the devil drains it. That is why you cannot marry based on beauty, charm, or convenience. You must ask: is this woman God’s helper for my assignment? Does she understand and align with the call of God on my life?

Practically, men must ensure they marry women who know and fear God, and women must refuse to go with men who have no sense of destiny. Sisters, ask him, “What is your calling? What am I meant to help you with?” If his answer is vague or worldly, beware. Brothers, don’t be swayed by shape or speech—look for a woman who carries the spirit of help from God. When a marriage is God-ordained, strength multiplies and destiny is preserved. When it is man-arranged, strength is drained and destiny is endangered.

THOUGHT TO PONDER
Do I see marriage as a destiny partnership, not just companionship? Am I discerning enough to recognise whether someone will multiply or drain my strength?

PRAYER
Lord, connect me to destiny partners who will multiply my strength and deliver me from anyone who will drain it.