Becoming the Right Person for and in MarriageNäide

YOUR DESIRES CANNOT SUBSTITUTE GOD’S WILL

The greatest enemy of divine leading is personal desire. Jesus Himself had to bring His will under subjection when He prayed, “O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt” (Matthew 26:39 KJV). If the Son of God had to lay down His desires for the Father’s will, then you too must come to Gethsemane in your marital choices. God already has thoughts of peace for you, not of evil, to give you an expected end (Jeremiah 29:11 KJV). But you must surrender your emotions, preferences, and ambitions so that His higher wisdom can prevail.

The mistake many believers make is to confuse desire with destiny. A man says, “I like her shape,” or a woman says, “He has money,” and they conclude God has spoken. Your desires are shaped by culture, upbringing, and flesh—they are unreliable compasses for destiny. If you follow them blindly, you will walk straight into satanic traps. Grace is not a licence to indulge your emotions; it is a divine empowerment to rise above them. Don’t assume that because you prayed with fasting, God will rubber-stamp your desire. If your will is not crucified, you will still mishear Him. A destiny marriage begins when you can genuinely say, “Lord, not my will, but Thine be done.”

Practically, take every attraction to the cross. Refuse to baptise lust as “love.” Refuse to let family pressure push you into choices God has not approved. Train yourself to hear God in small things daily, so that when marriage is before you, His voice will be clear. If you ignore His leading and go ahead with your desire, you will not only frustrate yourself but endanger your children’s inheritance. But if you embrace His will, even when it cuts across your flesh, you will walk into joy, peace, and a marriage that powers your destiny.

THOUGHT TO PONDER
Am I allowing my desires to compete with God’s will in the matter of marriage? Have I surrendered fully to the Lordship of Jesus in this area of my life?

PRAYER
Lord, crucify my fleshly desires and align my heart with Your perfect will for marriage and destiny.