Relationships That Flourish: A 30-Day Devotional on Finding Security in Christ and Growing Healthy ConnectionsNäide

In this passage, Paul boldly rebukes the believers in Galatia for turning away from the Gospel, the true story of Jesus and his salvation. We don’t know exactly why they were turning away, but Paul’s statement in verse 10 suggests that it may have been tied to their desire to please or impress others—placing human opinion above Christ.

One of the common heart reasons for our struggle with unhealthy boundaries is the desire to please others. We can easily fall into the trap of finding our worth in what we do and in meeting others’ needs and expectations. We may enjoy the affirmation that comes from feeling important or needed, and these desires are not inherently bad. But when our service is not motivated by a desire to please God, people-pleasing can become an idol that leads us away from Him.

What is the heart behind our striving? What may start as pure intentions of caring for others can become a desire to control, to earn love, or to keep the peace. Many of us grew up believing that if we didn’t please others, we wouldn’t be loved—or worse, we’d be ridiculed. These painful experiences make change difficult. If we’re honest, these patterns are not leading to healthy relationships. Instead, they often leave us feeling resentment, weariness, and neglecting our own health and our relationship with God.

We should also take a moment to reflect: Do we respect others’ boundaries? Or do we manipulate or guilt others into meeting our needs ahead of their own relationship with God? Do we encourage other believers to seek God’s approval above ours? How do we respond when someone shares a desire that conflicts with ours?

Healthy boundaries can transform relationships, but they only take root when our worth and identity are found in God—not in friends, family, or romantic partners. Jesus’ example shows us that the most loving response is not always to simply meet the expectation or request of those around us. God can help us keep our focus on pleasing Him and guarding our most important relationship: Our relationship with Him.

Reflect: In my relationships, am I more focused on pleasing others or pleasing God? What boundaries could help me seek God’s approval over people’s?

Pray: Jesus, it can be difficult to truly seek to please You above all others in my life. Help me to seek You first and to find my worth in You, not in the approval of others.