I'm Just a Guy: Raising a Son(s)نموونە

Win His Heart With Your Presence

Be where your feet are. I was given that advice once, and it truly stuck.

When I look at my patterns of behavior with my family, many moments are dictated by the distractions I allow in. Just like every family, we are easily pulled away from being fully present with one another. It’s a battle we fight daily.

It’s been said that kids spell love T-I-M-E. I believe that wholeheartedly, but I’ve also learned there’s another piece that’s even more challenging in today’s culture: attention.

I’ve been in countless meetings where I wasn’t really checked in. My camera was on, I answered when called upon, but my mind—and sometimes even my actions—were elsewhere. At times, I’d position the camera just right and multitask with other work while nobody knew the difference. But was that honoring the people who asked for my time the way God would desire? Probably not.

Then I realized—I was doing the same thing with my son. I’d sit in the same room with him, supposedly “spending time,” yet I couldn’t resist checking that email or glancing at that text (you know, those vitally important messages… sarcasm intended). And without saying a word, I was teaching him that my device mattered more than he did. Slowly, I was breaking his heart.

That kind of self-reflection stings. It forces a choice every day: will I accept the world’s standards of distraction as “just the way it is,” or will I redirect and align my life with what God desires most? Redirecting isn’t just wise—it’s necessary.

I want my boy to know that when daddy’s there, he’s truly there. I want him to see what undivided attention looks like, because in this world, that’s one of the rarest commodities. My hope is that his confidence soars as he knows he is seen, heard, and understood. While he may have to fight for that assurance in other relationships, with his dad it should always be a given—just as much as he can trust in the unwavering love of his heavenly Father.

My encouragement to you: instead of focusing on the amount of time spent with our children, instead focus on how each moment is stewarded. We don’t need a “Leave it to Beaver” moment every time we’re with our sons. But we should strive to give them undivided attention—the kind that forges bonds strong enough to last a lifetime.

Remember, being called by God to raise a son is one of the highest honors He bestows on a man. He handpicked you for the job! Lean into it. Laugh often. Cry when needed. Have fun. And embrace the adventure of watching Him transform your boy into a man.

Reflection Questions:

• How present are you when spending time with your son?
• How can you show him he is seen and heard?

Thank You!

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