Identity in the Barren Placeනියැදිය

Scripture Reading:
John 10:10 (NLT)
“The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.”

Devotional:
Infertility and miscarriage has a way of narrowing life down to loss.
Everything starts to feel like it’s about what isn’t. What you haven’t become. What hasn’t happened. The dream delayed becomes the lens through which you see yourself, your spouse, and your future.

It can steal your sense of purpose.
It can drain the joy out of your days.
It can make you forget who you are not just as individuals, but as a couple.

But here’s the challenge: the waiting is real but so is your life right now.
And God’s invitation is to live that life fully, even here. Especially here.

Together, you get to reclaim:

• Your identity apart from parenthood.
• Your right to laugh, to rest, to enjoy each other.
• Your purpose, not just someday, but today.

Wholeness doesn’t mean pretending the pain isn’t there.
It means refusing to let the pain have the final word.
It means choosing to reconnect, to enjoy intimacy, to rediscover joy even in small and ordinary ways.

Not because the outcome has changed but because you’re still here. And your story matters.

Practical Ways to Push Back Against the Lies:

• Say the lie out loud in a safe space if you expose it, it loses power.
• Speak truth over each other daily.
• Look in the mirror and affirm who you are not what infertility says you are.
• Center yourselves in faith, friendship, and fun these are anchors.
• Make eye contact. Hug. Let love be reflected back.
• Dress like the version of yourself you want to remember.
• Step into joy even in the smallest of ways.
• Seek a good counselor together or individually. You weren’t meant to walk this alone.

Reflect Together:

• Which one of these ideas feels most life-giving or practical for us to try this week?
• What’s one truth we can speak over each other today?

Prayer:
God, we don’t want to just survive we want to live. Really live. Teach us how to reclaim the parts of ourselves and our relationship that we’ve set aside. Show us how to find joy again, even here. Help us remember who we are, and who You are. And give us the courage to live fully even while waiting; we step forward together in Hope. Amen.