The Intentional Husband: 7 Days to Transform Your Marriage From the Inside Outනියැදිය

The Warrior's Admiration

In a world that often reduces marriage to routine obligation, Scripture paints a different picture—one of passionate appreciation and verbal affirmation. The Song of Solomon shows a husband who is absolutely captivated by his wife, expressing his admiration in specific praise. This wasn't just wedding-day excitement; Jewish tradition says that Solomon and his bride's love poetry continued throughout their marriage.

A husband after God's heart regularly expresses genuine appreciation for his wife. This goes beyond day-to-day compliments to specific affirmations—noticing and naming her character qualities, acknowledging her efforts, celebrating her achievements. In Proverbs 31, we see that the husband of the noble wife "praises her," declaring: "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." (Prov 31:29 NIV)

Verbal affirmation isn't just about physical compliments (though those matter too). It's about recognizing the whole person—her intelligence, work ethic, parenting, creativity, spiritual insights, and the countless ways she enriches your life and others'. When was the last time you told your wife specifically how God has used her to shape you for the better?

Cherishing also means protecting your wife's dignity and reputation. A husband after God's heart never belittles his wife to others, even in joking he speaks of her with honor both in her presence and absence. He defends her against criticism and creates safe spaces where she can be fully herself.

Remember that affirmation is most meaningful when it's consistent, specific, and authentic. Your wife needs to know she's cherished not just on special occasions but in ordinary moments. She needs to hear not just that you love her, but why you love her—the unique qualities that make her the irreplaceable gift she is in your life.

Prayer Focus: Father, help me to see my wife as You see her—her beauty, her value, her irreplaceable worth. Guide me to express my appreciation in ways that truly touch her heart. Make me attentive to moments when she needs encouragement and give me words that build her confidence and security in my love. Amen.

Reflection Question: What specific qualities, efforts, or characteristics of your wife can you sincerely appreciate and celebrate today?