I Don't Even Like Womenਨਮੂਨਾ

MADE FOR FRIENDSHIP

From the very start of creation, God made humans with great purpose and intentionality. He wanted us to reflect his image, to occupy the earth, and to multiply. And he never intended for us to do it alone. What God said of Adam—“It is not good for the man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18)—can be applied to both men and women today.

In creating Adam and Eve, God shows a clear desire to be in relationship with his creation, his children.

We were created, then, for friendship: Friendship with God. Friendship with one another.

The fall of Adam and Eve would not only separate them from God and one another but carry generational consequences for future friendships and relationships among humankind. Two people created by God to see only the beauty in one another could now see every flaw and feel shame that was strong enough to cause them to hide from their Creator.

When I hear women say, “I don’t even like women” (which I myself have said on more than one occasion), I realize we’re say­ing so much more. As fallen descendants of Eve, we are standing behind our tree, feeling exposed and rejected, afraid and insecure, revealing an honest cry of our heart:

“I’ve never had a real friend…”

“I’ve always wanted a sister…”

“The last time I trusted another female I was hurt.”

“You have no idea the betrayal I watched my mom endure.”

“I feel inadequate and insecure when I’m around successful women.”

“I feel ugly and unseen when I think other girls are prettier than me.”

It’s possible to find a friend who sticks closer than a sister (Proverbs 18:24). Hope for this kind of friendship can draw us out from behind the tree and back into the garden in search of sacred sisterhood, even when we want to hide.

How much female friendship do you have in your life right now? What is it you are longing for about friendship with other women?