Breaking Free From an Abusive Marriageਨਮੂਨਾ

The Storm Begins – Communication and Doubt

I was 24 when I got married, full of hope and determination to break the cycle of pain I’d seen in my family. I thought we were ready for anything. But marriage is a learning curve, and soon I realized how much we didn’t know. Communication became difficult. Arguments erupted over small things but often centered on women in my husband’s life. I felt invisible, unheard, and doubted myself constantly. Was I just jealous? Why was he allowed to have close relationships with other women while I was criticized for greeting males? One woman even came into our home for piano lessons and treated me with disrespect, and my husband dismissed my concerns as jealousy. The pain of feeling unseen and invalidated grew inside me. I wanted to believe we could fight through anything together, but I felt alone in the battle.

I was ashamed to ask for help. I believed I had to fix everything on my own. But over time, God’s Word showed me the importance of seeking counsel. Proverbs reminded me that without wise advice, plans fail. I learned that reaching out isn’t a sign of weakness, but of strength and wisdom. The hardest part was admitting I couldn’t do it alone. Even when I felt unheard and doubted, God saw me. He gently invited me to find support and guidance. Healing began the moment I opened my heart to Him and others.