Trusting and Showing Trustworthiness: A 3-Day Marriage Planਨਮੂਨਾ

Healing Words

"The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life." (Proverbs 15:4)

Do you enjoy teasing your wife? When you’re with friends, do you occasionally reveal an embarrassing secret about your husband?

One key to building trust is to take great care not to hurt or embarrass those we love. Some information is private and should remain so. For one partner to reveal family secrets indiscriminately breaks the couple’s bond of loyalty and violates trust.

Just as important as the words we don’t say, however, are those we do. Men, especially, are often reluctant to share feelings and fears with their wives, yet openness fosters trust and intimacy. Sharing thoughts is vital to a healthy, secure marriage. How can a wife feel safe or valued if she’s left guessing about what her husband is really thinking and feeling?

Along the same lines, if you’re in charge of the family finances, and you’ve accidentally or foolishly depleted the bank account, don’t hide it — let your spouse know. If someone makes a pass at you at work, tell your partner, even if it’s uncomfortable to do so. As you work together to find the best solution for problems like these, you’ll grow closer.

Questions for Today...

• Are you comfortable with the amount and nature of teasing in your marriage? Is your spouse?
• Do you share your thoughts with your spouse as much as he/her would like?
• Do your words “bring healing” to your spouse?
• How can you help your spouse share his/her feelings with you?

Prayer . . .

Dear God, let the words of my mouth always be true and full of grace. May my words bring healing and encouragement and draw my spouse and I closer together. Amen.

(Excerpted from Dr. James and Shirley Dobson’s book, Night Light for Couples. Used with permission.)

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