Restoring Sex After Sexual Sinਨਮੂਨਾ

A New Mindset About Sexual Expression

This pure vision of sexuality is what God designed sex and marriage to look like when He made humankind in the beginning and pronounced all of His works good. Sex is supposed to be based on intimacy, tenderness, mutual consent, and becoming one flesh with your spouse.

This is why C. S. Lewis observed, “The monstrosity of sexual intercourse outside marriage is that those who indulge in it are trying to isolate one kind of union (the sexual) from all the other kinds of union which were intended to go along with it and make up the total union.”

A godly sexual union is a marvel and a reality that defies description. A good place to start is to consider how the various emotions of marriage and the physical actions shared between the male and female body show signs of God’s nature or tell a symbolic story about it.

· He is a God of shared relationship and deep intimacy (the Trinity).

· He is faithful.

· He initiates and pursues us – and at our ready invitation, He then enters our lives and enables us to bear godly fruit.

· He is expressively passionate about His “marriage” covenant with His church, which the Bible refers to as the very bride of Christ.

· When our eyes are opened to the Creator’s artwork in our bodies and in marital sexuality, we see obvious intentionality and many unfolding levels of beauty to be celebrated and enjoyed.

· In a very parallel way, God wants to “marry” each one of us so that we bear His name and the good results (the fruit) of our closeness with Him.

Can you see the picture? Our commitment to God is like a wedding. Our closeness with Him is intimate like the marriage bed. The result is life – the human family that grows as a result of unity, sacrifice, and erotic love. Sex and our bodies, as God intended them, tell part of the Gospel story.

Sacred sex is much more about attitudes and nonverbal communication than about the sex act itself. It’s a mystery for which every couple can be grateful.

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