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The Heart Behind Confrontation

“Why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? . . . First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.” Matthew 7:3, 5 (NLT)

As you learn to love like Jesus, you must confront the problems in your relationships that keep you from closeness with other people. You have to face the issues that scare you to death—and you have to learn how to do it in love.

Did you know that we tend to criticize in other people the very thing we don’t like in ourselves? If you tend to be prideful, you can pick out ego in a second. If you tend to be lazy, you notice laziness in others. Before you confront anybody in a spirit of love, make sure you’re not also doing the thing you’re criticizing.

The Bible says, “Why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? . . . First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye” (Matthew 7:3, 5 NLT).

Before you confront someone, start by checking your motivation. You know you’re confronting someone for the right reason if you’re doing it for the other person’s benefit and not your own. If you want to say something because you need to vent or unload, then you’re not confronting someone in love.

Start a confrontation with the correct motivation. What’s the right motive? To help, not to hurt. Do everything in love!