When You Feel Like Roommates: 4 Day Plan to Help You Love (And Like) Your Spouse for Lifeნიმუში

Do you have fun together?

If you were to make a 60-second movie trailer to depict your dating days, what might get included in the preview? Mine could include James teaching me how to properly twirl angel hair pasta with a spoon on our first date, him holding my hand in the planetarium, and our first kiss in New York City. In this throwback montage, we look positively giddy, always smiling and floating on air because we were together having adventures.

Falling in love was fun. Dating was fun. Dinners were fun. Day trips were fun. Doing errands was even fun. The destination or activity didn’t have to be inherently fun. We brought the fun everywhere we went. Staying in this giddy state is hardly realistic (or even advisable!). But if fun evaporates from the relationship, it’s a recipe for disaster. The absence of fun leads to a more boring relationship that resembles being roommates, not best friends and lovers.

If you think having fun as husband and wife doesn’t sound very spiritual, think again. The Old Testament is full of feasts and celebrations. Revelation 19:9 tells us about the great marriage supper of the Lamb. David writes there is joy in God’s presence with eternal pleasures at His right hand (Psalm 16:11). It sounds like being in God’s presence will be a lot of fun.

If “fun” is not the word you would use to describe your marriage, the good news is that this is easily fixed! You don’t need a huge budget or a one-week vacation to have fun again. Laughter is free. Watch a favorite comedian together. Look through old videos and laugh at your funny haircuts or how silly you used to be. Make a list of activities you both enjoy and put one on the calendar this month.

Doing new things and laughing together make marriage fun again. When marriage is too serious with bills and therapy and parenting problems, moving your body and getting out isn’t frivolous. It may be the boost your marriage needs to get through the next season with joy and closeness.

Prayer:

Lord, You are a God of rejoicing! Help me to experience more of your joy and fun in my marriage. Give us ideas of activities we could do together that would be good for us. Fill our mouths with laughter. Help us to trade in our sorrows and worries for Your peace and joy in our home. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Making Marriage Easier: How to love (and like) your spouse for life

Life has enough challenges… your marriage doesn’t have to be one of them. Full of biblical wisdom and real-life stories that will crack you up, Arlene shares what has made her marriage of 25+ years joyful. Making Marriage Easier addresses common threats to your marriage: poor communication, selfishness, tension over differences, lack of physical intimacy, parenting stress, and more.

Start listening to Making Marriage Easier by Arlene Pellicane at Happy Home University (plus get date night ideas even if you just have 15 or 30 minutes):

Link: https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/makingmarriageeasier