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Day 6: How One Simple Phrase Can Greatly Improve Your Marriage

"If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me." (Matthew 16:24)

Television advertisers are experts at "rattling the cages" of viewers. They understand the philosophy of today's audience: look out for number one. That's why we're bombarded with slogans such as "Have it your way"; "You rule!"; and, "Because I'm worth it." Their goal is to appeal to our self-centered nature and manipulate us into buying a product. Frequently, they succeed.

The "I'm Third" approach to life is in direct contradiction to the message of these ads. As well it should be! Jesus tells us that our first obligation in following Him must be to deny ourselves—to let go of the steering wheel, so to speak, and let the Lord drive. Secondly, we are to love and care for others. Try implementing these priorities. They will lead to a better marriage in this life and eternal rewards in the next.

God first, others second, myself third. A simple phrase, but it contains far more wisdom for living life to the fullest than anything you'll see or hear in a television ad.

Questions for Today . . .

• Do you have an "I'm Third" kind of marriage?
• Is there a couple you know who models this philosophy?
• How can you prioritize your spouse's desires ahead of our own?
• What, if anything, do you and your spouse need to change to create an "I'm Third" marriage?

Prayer . . .

Dear Jesus, I hear Your invitation to follow You in a life of self-denial. Tonight, I make You Lord of my marriage. Help me to live every day by Your example—in obedience to the Father and in loving service to my spouse. Amen.

(Excerpted from Dr. James and Shirley Dobson’s book, Night Light for Couples. Used with permission.)

Related Resource . . .

If you're struggling to find ways to show your spouse how much you love him or her, this video is for you. Brenen and Morgan Beeler discuss the ways that Brenen shows affection each day. Some of the ideas are simple—bringing home her favorite coffee drink. Others are much deeper, such as being the spiritual leader of their home and initiating family worship time. Each suggestion is a gift that you can implement to show love to your spouse.