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The Mystery of Romance

"Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away." (Song of Songs 8:7)

No matter how hard we try to define romance, it remains in part a mystery. Yet Solomon's Song of Songs does give us several clues to its nature. In this evocative description of romantic love, we see that it means both intimacy and intense emotional excitement: "My lover is mine and I am his" (2:16); "My heart began to pound for him" (5:4). We see how deep affection inspires desire and complete appreciation for another: "How beautiful you are, my darling!" (4:1). We learn that to be romantic means to pursue the object of our affection, and to pine when he or she eludes us: "All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him" (3:1). And we see how powerfully a public display of affection communicates romantic love: "He has taken me to the banquet hall, and his banner over me is love" (2:4).

Most important of all, we learn that God intended romance to culminate in the unbreakable bond of married love. The book of Songs reaches its climax with a description of the power of love: "Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like a blazing fire, like a mighty flame" (8:6). The Lord would not have provided us with this scriptural celebration of love and romance unless He intended it as an inspiring example for us.

Questions for Today . . .

• How does Song of Songs demonstrate the importance of romance?
• How can romance encourage love "like a mighty flame"?
• In light of today's reading, would you alter your definition of romance in any way?

Prayer . . .

Heavenly Father, thank You for the blessing of romantic attraction. May my spouse and I pursue each other joyfully and creatively all of our days. Amen.

(Excerpted from Dr. James and Shirley Dobson’s book, Night Light for Couples. Used with permission.)

Bonus Content: "What 'I Love You' Looks Like Every Day"

If you're struggling to find ways to show your spouse how much you love him or her, this video is for you. Brenen and Morgan Beeler discuss the ways that Brenen shows affection each day. Some of the ideas are simple—bringing home her favorite coffee drink. Others are much deeper, such as being the spiritual leader of their home and initiating family worship time. Each suggestion is a gift that you can implement to show love to your spouse.