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COURTSHIP CANNOT REPLACE CONSECRATION

Many believers think they can skip spiritual growth and rely on courtship to make the right marriage choice. That is deception. The Bible says, “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God” (Romans 8:14 KJV). It also declares, “If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit” (Galatians 5:25 KJV). Divine leading is not an emergency response when marriage is before you; it is the lifestyle of a child of God. If you have not trained yourself to recognise God’s voice in daily matters, you will not suddenly hear Him clearly when a proposal comes.

Courtship is not consecration. You cannot replace years of walking with God with a few months of romance and call it divine will. Many have gone into relationships thinking emotions and activities will substitute for accuracy in the Spirit, only to find themselves trapped. God does not speak only at junctions; He speaks daily. If you don’t hear Him on what to say, where to go, or how to respond in ordinary life, don’t expect clarity when choosing a spouse. That is why many get carried away by pretence, only to wake up in marriage and discover they never knew the person at all. Courtship can show you behaviour, but only consecration and divine leading will reveal the spirit behind a person.

What then should you do? Begin now to cultivate intimacy with God. Train your spirit to follow His promptings in simple things. When you walk in daily consecration, marriage will not be a confusing hurdle but a natural extension of divine leading. Don’t wait until emotions are entangled to start seeking God; by then, your flesh will drown His voice. Build accuracy in the Spirit now, so that when you need to decide on your marital choice, you will know your partner not just by sight or feelings but by the witness of heaven.

THOUGHT TO PONDER
Am I building daily consecration that sharpens my ear for God’s voice? Or am I relying on courtship to give me what only spiritual growth can supply?

PRAYER
Lord, teach me to walk daily in consecration so that I will not miss Your voice in the matter of marriage.