Wisdom: A Study in ProverbsNäide

What does it say?

It is foolish to speak in haste or in anger. A wise person maintains self-control when he speaks.

What does it mean?

Woven within this chapter are great nuggets of truth regarding speech. First, the person who allows anger to rule his tongue causes hurt and frustration. It is better to calm down before speaking. A wise person understands the benefits of maintaining self-control in heated conversations. Secondly, the person who speaks before he knows all the facts makes costly mistakes. His words show no thought, whereas a wise person listens and gains information in order to speak carefully and thoughtfully.

How should I respond?

Harsh words spoken when emotions are running high will damage your relationships. Wait until you have control of your emotions before emailing, texting, or having a face-to-face confrontation. Don’t let anger get the best of you. Review all that was said. Is it possible there is something deeper going on? How can you help rather than harm the relationship in a moment of anger? Being cautious of how you respond to a difficult situation demonstrates strength and wisdom. Remember, it’s more important to preserve a relationship than to foolishly vent your feelings.