Relationships That Flourish: A 30-Day Devotional on Finding Security in Christ and Growing Healthy Connectionsنموونە

We cannot overstate how valuable connection with others is for us as humans. Meaningful relationships—where we feel safe, accepted, and understood—are essential for our flourishing. When life is hard, we need to be able to connect with others who can help us find healing, hope, and the ability to move forward. The need for someone to be present with us in the joys and griefs of life has been there since we were children. Early life experiences, such as how our caregivers attuned to us or how we experienced a traumatic event, impact how we build and experience security in relationships—how and if we feel safe, understood, or loved. Often, we either move away from connectedness to protect ourselves from being hurt or we try to connect with others in unhealthy ways.

Psychologists have identified four main attachment styles:

• Secure: Comfortable giving and receiving love, trusting others easily.
• Anxious: Fears abandonment, often seeking reassurance.
• Avoidant: Struggles with closeness, keeps emotional distance.
• Disorganized: Desires closeness but fears it, leading to unpredictable behavior.

Understanding our attachment style can help us pursue healing and build healthier relationships. What about our relationship with God? Our attachment style can influence how we perceive God's love for us. Yet, God's love is unlike any other relationship—He is constant, faithful, and unchanging. Nothing we do can make Him love us more, and nothing can make Him love us less.

Romans 8 reminds us that there is absolutely nothing that can separate us from the love of God. He meets us in every place of our story, in every relationship, even in our fears and insecurities. He invites us to find rest and security in His presence. As we reflect on attachment and our relationship with Him, we can take steps toward experiencing a more profound sense of God's love and peace.

We trust that the resources from Susannah Baker have been a blessing to your journey of processing your relationships with God. As we reflect on the idea of Attachment, Susannah has created two resources to support you in reflecting on and praying through your attachment style, helping you move towards a secure attachment with God and others. Choose to reflect with the Restorative Prayer for Insecure-Anxious Attachmentor Restorative Prayer for Insecure-Avoidant Attachment.

Reflect: Is there a relationship in my life that has impacted the way I understand God's character and posture towards me?

Pray:God, You are unchanging. Thank You for Your love that is not dependent on anything I have or have not done. May I find rest and security in Your presence.