Hope and Healing for Single Momsনমুনা

RECONNECT: CHOOSE COMMUNITY OVER ISOLATION

Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.

Mindful Minute

Single motherhood can feel like being stranded on an island with waves of responsibility on all sides, and no one to help carry the load.

At first, it may seem safer to stay isolated. After all, your tender heart has been through enough. People you trusted have let you down before. It can feel too risky to chance that again.

But the truth is that healing happens in connection. God never intended you to do life alone. From the beginning, He declared, “It is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18). Jesus chose to live in community as He shared meals, walked roads, prayed, and served alongside others.

Choosing to live in community is an act of courage. You might fear being judged, misunderstood, or hurt again. But the risk of isolation is greater. Without safe people, your burdens multiply, your mind spirals, and your hope fades.

By seeing what you cannot see in yourself, sharing your burden, and pointing you to Jesus, community is part of your healing. Others see your strengths that you can’t see when you’re weary or discouraged. A friend can pick up groceries when you’re sick or sit with you so you don’t have to face hard moments alone. And when your faith feels fragile, another can pray with you and remind you that Jesus Christ is ever near.

Isolation might feel like control when everything seems to be out of your control, but doing life alone erodes your emotional and spiritual health.

Choosing to live in community is an important step in your healing. Ask God to bring trustworthy women, mentors, and church families into your life. Think about the women in Scripture, Ruth who found family in Naomi, Mary had Elizabeth, and the early church “met together daily” (Acts 2:46). They found strength as they lived life together. In community, we live God’s command to “bear one another’s burdens” (Galatians 6:2).

You’ve been hurt by people before, but your past experiences don’t dictate your future connections. God can lead you to a circle that’s safe, encouraging, and life-giving.

You don’t have to be alone. And you don’t have to wait until you’re healed enough to belong. Right now, you may feel emotionally cold and wet. A guest at the funeral of your hoped-for happily ever after. What comfort to be gathered in by a community and welcomed to a place where the doors are open, the light is on, and there is a seat for you.

In a faith-based church is a place for putting down roots to grow deep in relationship with Jesus and with a spiritual family who, like you, boast a bumper crop of foibles and irritable habits all balanced by grace. A congregation that accepts and supports your children and you in your single-parent state.

Prayer

Heavenly Father, You designed me for connection, not isolation. Help me to trust You as I take steps toward living in community again. Heal the wounds from past relationships and guard my heart with Your peace. Bring safe, godly people into my life, and make me a safe place for others. Teach me how to give and receive help with humility and joy. Thank You for never leaving me alone and for welcoming me into Your family. In Jesus’ name, Amen.