Identity in the Barren Placeনমুনা

Scripture Reading:
Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NLT)
“A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.”

Devotional:
Every pregnancy loss.
Every negative test.
Every procedure or surgery.
Every month of “not yet.”

They stack up like bricks. And before you even realize it, a wall’s been built between you. The grief is real but it rarely shows up the same way for both of you. One of you might want to talk. The other might shut down. One might cry. The other might go quiet.

You can love each other deeply and still feel powerless to reach one another.
You might find yourselves pulling away not out of anger, but out of sadness. Out of fear. Out of not knowing how to do this together.

But here's the truth: you don’t have to have the right words to stay close.
You don’t have to fix everything. You just have to show up.

When couples begin naming the lies, giving grief some room to breathe, and letting each other be honest without judgment connection becomes possible again. It’s not always neat or quick. But it’s real. And real is always better than pretending.

Your love isn’t fragile. It’s just under fire. And it can still grow stronger in the middle of this.

Reflect Together:

• In what ways has infertility or loss created distance between us?
• What’s one small, intentional way we can begin reconnecting this week emotionally, spiritually, or even physically?

Prayer:
God, sometimes we don’t know how to reach each other. The pain feels heavy, and it pulls us in opposite directions. But You made us one. So help us come back to each other gently, honestly, and with grace. Teach us how to show up, even if we don’t have the right words. Amen.