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Scary Close-Reflections For Finding True Intimacy

DAY 6 OF 7

Control Freak

I DON’T KNOW WHY LOVING A WOMAN IS SCARIER than climbing a mountain or sailing an ocean, but it is. A mountain can hurt your body and an ocean can drown you, but in the end you’re still a man for conquering them. Dead or alive, you’re still a man. A woman, though, can rob your manhood and reduce you to a boy at the drop of a word. It’s no wonder we all try to control each other. Sometimes relationships feel like we’re trying to emotionally cuddle with each other at the same time we’re tearing each other down.

But love doesn’t control, and I suppose that’s why it’s the ultimate risk. In the end, we have to hope the person we’re giving our heart to won’t break it, and be willing to forgive them when they do, even as they will forgive us.

Real love stories don’t have dictators, they have participants. Love is an ever-changing, complicated, choose-your-own adventure narrative that offers the world but guarantees nothing. When you climb a mountain or sail an ocean, you’re rewarded for staying in control.

Perhaps that’s another reason true intimacy is so frightening. It’s the one thing we all want, and must give up control to get.

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Scary Close-Reflections For Finding True Intimacy

“Love can’t be earned, it can only be given. And it can only be exchanged by people who are completely true with each other,” says Donald Miller. In this 7-day reading plan based on the book Scary Close, Don challenges our assumptions about what makes for good relationships and shares reflections from his own journey to “drop the act” and find true intimacy.

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We would like to thank Donald Miller and Thomas Nelson for providing this plan. For more information, please visit: http://bit.ly/2j6dyMI