"Stuck in the Friend Zone"
- Genesis 2:18 (NASB)
- Genesis 2:19 (NASB)
- Genesis 2:20 (NASB)
- Genesis 2:21 (NASB)
- Genesis 2:22 (NASB)
- Genesis 2:23 (NASB)
- Genesis 2:24 (NASB)
Very often, people find themselves dating a person but pouring his/ her heart to another person that (s)he would consider a friend. In this scenario, the person that one should most preferably date is the friend as God has intended dating to be in the context of a friendship rather than a hedonistic, lust driven motivation.
A. All human beings are looking for someone who makes us feel loved.
B. C.S. Lewis writes a book called _The Four Loves_ in which he describes the following four types of love.
• Storge - affection, romance
• Eros - sexual attraction
• Phileos - friendship
• Agape - unconditional love
1. One problem that the modern society has is screening out potential mates by using both storge and eros primarily.
2. The proper approach would be to use phileos as a screening process.
a. Marriage is a friendship garnished in romance rather than romance garnished in friendship.
3. In short, one should date and Marty their best friend.
II. Marriage as Friendship
A. Friendship is deep oneness that comes when people are in a journey together towards a common passion.
1. This oneness is seen in vv. 24-25 as one cleaves to another individual of the opposite sex, allowing us to be open at all costs ("naked and unashamed").
2. The journey is one toward Christlikeness, or holiness.
a. A friend sees past all of the sin in your life, hoping to see you progress in your sanctification.
i. With that said, to fall in love means to get involved with one and realize that you want to be a part of their lifelong process of being conformed to Christ.
b. Also, implicit in the term journey is that people aren't perfect but are rather gradually moving toward perfection (Christlikeness) by God's grace.
3. The last part of the definition is moving toward a common horizon, the advancement of God's kingdom in the world.
B. Therefore, when seeking to date, one should look for that piece of marble that God has begin to chisel and make into His image rather than the smooth, finished sculpture.
1. A few key markers include:
•Do they make you want to be holy?
•Do they give you a vision of who you are in Christ?
•Do they make you want to love Jesus more?
A. Jesus is that friend who allows you to be free and transparent at all times.
1. He is so committed that He actually went to the cross so that you could be the person who you've always yearned to be, one who is naked and unashamed.
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