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    2308 N Main St, Anderson, SC 29621, United States
    Sunday 10:30 AM
You know we love Mother’s Day around NABC but we really love Father’s Day. On Father’s Day we don’t give out “flowers” but Lowes gift cards! Hoorah! No dainty flowers for these Fathers, just men’s stuff!

The Scriptures have much to say about fathers and their responsibilities to their wives, and to the children and to the community in which they live. Today we want to take a look at the Father’s responsibility to their children.

One of the greatest songs of the ‘70’s was “Cat’s in the Cradle.” These are Harry Chapin’s lyrics for this song.

Cat's in the Cradle
My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch, and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talking 'fore I knew it, and as he grew
He'd say "I'm gonna be like you, dad"
"You know I'm gonna be like you"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
"When you coming home, dad?"
"I don't know when"
But we'll get together then
You know we'll have a good time then
My son turned ten just the other day
He said, thanks for the ball, dad, come on let's play
Can you teach me to throw, I said, not today
I got a lot to do, he said, that's okay
And he walked away, but his smile never dimmed
It said, I'm gonna be like him, yeah
You know…

There are several themes in this song; one is when a father is too busy to pay attention to his children, then one day when he needs to have them around or just wants a relationship with them, they don’t have time for him. The other theme is that our children sometimes and many times turn out just like us.

Does that teach us anything? It does; it says to us that our children are watching what we do and how we respond to the world around us, our work ethic, the way we treat people, particularly the family and specifically in this case, the children or the son.

"The Western world stands at a great crossroads in its history. It is my opinion that our very survival as a people will depend upon the presence or absence of masculine leadership in
millions of homes...I believe, with everything within me, that husbands hold the keys to the preservation of the family."—Dr. James Dobson
Because of this truth we are going to look at the following scripture, Ephesians 6:4. The Bible says that fathers are not to “provoke” their children to anger or wrath. What does that mean? One writer put provoking this way, “Passionate and unreasonable rebukes, intemperate language, or cruel usage, would provoke resentment on the part of children.” One scholar said, “Do not needlessly fret or exasperate them.” The great Matthew Henry says, Deal prudently and wisely with children; convince their judgements and work upon their reason. Bring them up well; under proper and compassionate correction; and in the knowledge of the duty God requires.

This statement doesn’t mean that you can’t discipline your children, indeed that is the problem today that many parents hardly ever discipline their children and we all suffer from that. There is the story of the father whipping the little boy and saying, "Son, this hurts me more than it hurts you." The boy replied, "Yeah, but not in the same place!" J. Vernon McGee How many of us had a “whippin” and it hurt us just a little while, but we deserved it!

The Apostle said, “Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath.” The advice of Dr. John R. Rice was not to spank your children when you are angry, but to wait until you have “cooled off.” Then explain why you are disciplining them, and hug them afterwards. Try to do that, and you will usually succeeded. Your children will not be “provoked to wrath” if you discipline them that way. Never whip a child in anger. Ask God to help you to have wisdom in disciplining your children.

When we add to the discipline of the children, training of a child, the teaching of the Lord, scripture and learning to love not only God but His church, then the children have been given much of what they need to walk with God when they are ready for themselves.

One dad to another: "I'm no model father. All I'm trying to do is behave so that when people tell my son that he reminds them of me, he'll stick out his chest instead of his tongue."—Richard Manchester Oak Leaves
The home is not only the place to teach the children, but when you “bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” we have a church to rely on as well. God has established the church as a family of loving people who are to care for and encourage each other. We have in the church fellowship just that, fellowship of other Christians who will teach us and encourage us, worship with us, pray for us and walk alongside us in our growing Christian life. As parent the church is another special resource for you as you are called to lead your children in the ways of the Lord but it will be for them a place to begin to see the hand of God on their life within the community of believers. This is what we have just talked about with John and Holly for the life of Isaac. We are his family and for John and Holly they can count on us to help guide and lead when it is needed and through the teaching of the wonderful little fella as he grows here at NABC.

If your home was a Jewish home then there would be clear instructions of what to do.
We don’t have to go through this scripture, for we have done it in an earlier sermon on the home, but it is such a great example of teaching the children and realizing that they need your instructions in every part of their lives day and night. “Paul finds it natural to compare his training of his converts with a father's care for the spiritual welfare of his children, as he had doubtless known it in his own home: "You know how, like a father with his children, we exhorted each one of you and encouraged you and charged you to lead a life worthy of God"
This scripture is used a great deal when it comes to children who are not presently living the life that they were taught about as a child. Let’s look at those thoughts that are related to this passage from Solomon. Proper training of a child will last a lifetime. When we look at this phrase “train up a child” we are looking at an imperative thought. Train includes the idea that one is dedicated to what you are doing and so the “training” is done with purpose. When the child is young enough to comprehend the training, then the instruction is to “start the child on the right road.” The Expositor’s Bible Commentary says that the right road is expressed in the way he should go and there was a standard of life to which he or she should go. It was implied through the teaching and the society. Therefore, if he or she was taught that “way he should go” then he would not depart from that way when he got older.
Another thought has come to the forefront and that is the training of the child should be “according to the child’s way.” Some say that the training would be according to the ability and the potential of the child. The wise parent will note the natural “bent” of the individual child and train him or her accordingly. The emphasis is still on the parents duty to train but being conscience of the child’s individuality. It is said that in scripture there are only two “ways” a child can go, the way of the righteous or the way of the fool and the wicked. In this interpretation one must be very careful, all our “bent” is to sin unless we are taught of the righteousness of God and learn how to trust Him and follow him. Spiritually there is a right and a wrong way. But for the child, each one is different and therefore needs to be treated differently for who they are.
Fathers and mothers, please remember God gave you a gift, let us not misuse the gift by not teaching our children of the gift Giver. Lead them to Him who loves them and died for them that they may have eternal life. If we do that then I believe they will not depart from the way and the Giver of eternal life. Remember that each child has to make that decision for themselves but you have so much to do with that. If you teach them to know who Christ is and His love for them and love them as you do, they will have a better chance of loving Him themselves. Your example makes all the difference in life. Don’t force but lead, don’t make the decision to follow Christ for them, they must make that decision for themselves.
And what if you are a young person whose father is not a Christian? You do not have an example to follow. Sometimes mothers have to step in for the example. Regardless come to Jesus and trust Him. Then ask God to help you live the Christian life. God will help you, even if your own father was not a good example. We know that is true because God has helped many a young person, through the storms of life. There is a precious promise in the Word of God for you.
I know several men in my life that have been or are presently being that dad for children who are not their biological children. I am thinking of two now who have done a great job in parenting children that are adopted into their lives. Children are fortunate and blessed to have someone who cares and loves that much that they will take someone else’s child and raise them in the love of the Lord God, Father of us all. Bless you Larry and Ray, you are two of many who have gone that second mile for children. I came to know Larry through Lynda whose best friend is Tish and Larry is her husband. Not long ago they took into their home a child, a relative of theirs, to raise as their own. He is such a great dad and loves her with all his heart. Ray, we met when we first came to Anderson at Pope Drive. His two children were adopted and I saw the example that he set and leadership he gave to those two precious children who are now grown and with families of their own. They are both a blessing to me and an inspiration.
The following was in a devotion from Sheila Walsh.

“I don’t know what Father’s Day is like for you. It might be a day you dread. It might be a day that reminds you of what you don’t have. It may be a day you celebrate. Whatever that day is like for you, my prayer is that you would remember that you have a Father in Heaven who loves you every day, who will never leave you, who will never fail you. You might even want to make Him a card! Every day for us is The Father’s Day.”

If you do not know this Father that Sheila is talking about I invite you to come and trust His Son, Jesus Christ as your Savior to become God’s child and get to know Him personally. He already loves you and wants a relationship with you, for He sent Jesus to die for you and me. If you would come to the front during this invitation one of us will be thrilled to lead you to know Jesus personally.
For you fathers here today, whether your children are still home or not, you need to re-establish your relationship with them if you haven’t already and remind them that you are pleased that they are a gift from God for you. If there has been a strain on your relationship with them, make the steps necessary to reach out and to make it right. The dad should take that step, you are the man of the family and it will mean so much to them if you do that.

I also call dads here today to recommit your lives to the Lord and to love you wife and your children more than ever. Be the man God has called you to be, give an example of a righteous and faithful husband and father to your family; do that now! And then tell them that is what you have done.

If you are one of our guests and have been coming for awhile and we have talked about your life with Christ, I invite you to come and join this fellowship through your salvation and your life with Christ, seeking to live for Him in all you do and who you are. You can do this by transfer of letter or through your statement of faith in Christ.

Invitation

Dear friend if you are reading this by way of the internet please know that you are loved and cared for. If you have no relationship with God the Father through Jesus Christ His Son, then I invite you to trust Him by faith and receive Him as your personal Savior. Jesus Christ died on the cross for the sin of everyone in the world that they may have eternal life. All of us have sinned and all are guilty before Almighty God who made us to have fellowship with Him. But sin broke that ability to have a relationship and Jesus has restored the possibility to know God personally through His sacrifice. Please know that if you will seek God and turn from your sin and pray He will respond with His love and give to you a personal relationship through your belief in His Son and the sacrifice He made just for you. He will call for a change in your life too. He wants you to follow Him, not the world, not your own desires, but to follow Jesus. That brings a life change when you turn from sin and self and by faith believe in Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord. There is no Savior without Him being Lord of your life. Your willingness to change by following Him daily in your life will be the proof of your faith. When life throws its curves your way and you have found yourself broken by others or by the world let us introduce you to the only One who can help you…Jesus! You can write or call the office and we will follow up by contacting you. Office phone number is 864-225-2575 and the website address is www.northandersonbaptist.com and the physical address is 2308 N. Main St., Anderson, SC 29621. Dear friend if you are a believer and you have been touched by the Lord and you would like to talk to someone at the church just contact us in one of the ways you see above. If you are a believer and would like to talk about the church and your interest in being a part, please call and we can set up an appointment for you and get to know you. It would be a great pleasure to share our Lord’s love with you. This is a loving church and you are important to us, so please let us know what we can do for you in the Lord.Pastor Bill Rigsby

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