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    2308 N Main St, Anderson, SC 29621, United States
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Submission is one of those words that the world hates! From their perspective it always means to be a doormat, a second-class citizen, bowing or cowering, or someone who is being mistreated if they are made to submit. In God’s vocabulary regarding marriage, submission means to work together to find the best for each husband and wife, it means loyalty being faithful, flexible, adaptable, consenting to or to agree to, for both seeking to humble themselves before the Father in order to be obedient to Him.

When it comes to this scripture, even some Christians who might not look at the Bible like someone who is a conservative and believes what the Bible says is to be completely true, might look at the passage differently. In our new Constitution and By-Laws, in Article IV, Section 18 - Family, the Southern Baptist Convention in 2000 added this section to the Baptist Faith and Message. The following is the third paragraph of this section.
“The husband and wife are of equal worth before God, since both are created in God's image. The marriage relationship models the way God relates to His people. A husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. He has the God-given responsibility to provide for, to protect, and to lead his family. A wife is to submit herself graciously to the servant leadership of her husband even as the church willingly submits to the headship of Christ. She, being in the image of God as is her husband and thus equal to him, has the God-given responsibility to respect her husband and to serve as his helper in managing the household and nurturing the next generation.”
Please notice, in the print version, the sentence in bold. We have had those who call themselves SBC Christians that do not believe this is right and that they are against this statement. “A wife should not have to submit herself to her husband,” I have heard one pastor say. Let’s today look at this scripture and you decide if God’s word is to be believed.
We will look at four parts to this passage today.

1. Vv. 21-24 - Submission
2. Vv. 25-30 - Husbands loving wives/Christ loving the church
3. Vv. 31-32 - The mystery of marriage and the church
4. V. 33 - Husbands love, wives respect

All that we are going to look at this morning is based upon the principle Paul has laid down in the previous verses. The relationship of Christians to one another and to Christ is based on being Spirit-filled believers and then what is done in regard to others, follows from a humble-submissive Christian. From Paul, in Galatians 3:28, we find that no believer is inherently superior to any other believer, because before God all are equal.
1. Vv. 21-24 - Submission

Because we are to be Spirit-filled, all that we do we do out of reverence and respect for Christ. We submit or subject ourselves to one another as if we were doing it to Christ. The Greek word for submit is, “obedience, obedient, put, subdue or subject.” Really it is a military term, “to rank under” subjecting yourselves. Basically from the Greek Dictionary of the New Testament Subject or subjection is putting under, subdue, be (put) in subjection or submit self unto.”
Real Meaning Of Submission
Submit is not a word that means the individual who submits becomes a non-person or gives up all rights or responsibilities or that the person always agrees.In fact it was a word used in the Roman military to describe the relationship between a colonel and a general. The general had ultimate responsibility. The colonel had responsibility and was a highly respected individual, yet he deferred overall and ultimate authority to the general.
Encyclopedia of 15,000 Illustrations: Signs of the Times.
God has established the concept of authority: God has authority over man (James 4:5), man has authority over nature (Gen. 1:28), husbands have authority over wives (Eph. 5:22), parents have authority over children (Eph. 6:1), governors have authority over the governed (1 Pet. 2:13-14), employers have authority over employees (1 Pet. 2:18) and the Spiritual leaders have authority over the spiritual lead (1 Pet. 5:2). Jesus tried to teach His disciples humility and since they seemed not to learn, even up to the last time they had together, Christ got down on His knees and washed their feet just like a slave and submitted Himself to them. They were to learn submission from Him and what He did for them. But they did not seem to understand until after the resurrection. We who are on this side of the resurrection should understand that Jesus desires us to submit to one another out of love and respect. Paul also said along these same lines in Philippians 2:2-5,
So when we come to verse 22 and we read that the wife must submit to her own husband, as unto the Lord, then we can understand that the wife isn’t secondary or less important than the husband, she is just second in command in the family. God has made an order for the family and when all works the way He planned, then success comes to the family. Notice the important phrase, “as to the Lord.” We are all to submit to Christ, so when a wife submits to her own husband she is doing it because she submits to Christ her Savior and Lord out of obedience to His command. Remember the phrase that we used in the baptism today, “In obedience to the command of Christ, I baptize you…”

Now notice, Paul speaks of Christ as the head of the church. The husband is like Christ, who is the head of the church, the husband is to be the head of the wife and as Christ is the Savior of the church the husband ought to be the savior of his family, wife and children if there are some. Jesus was obedient to His Father and was willing to sacrifice His life for mankind and so is the husband to sacrifice his life and all that he has for his wife. Because the wife submits as unto the Lord then the husband finds it easy to lead and easier to do whatever it takes to be that savior his family needs. Personal worthiness and spiritual condition is not mentioned here. There are no conditions for the husband, Christ hasn’t stopped being the head of the church and husbands can’t just give their headship away and not fulfill that which Jesus calls us to do out of obedience to Christ.
Guided by Your Wife?

A bachelor king of a small country of olden days disagreed with the statement of his prime minister that men are guided by their wives' opinions.The king had all his male married subjects called before him. They were warned of dire punishment if they did not truthfully answer the question put to them."Are you guided by your wife's opinions and judgment?" the prime minister intoned.Those in the affirmative were to move to the left. Soon the group at the left held all the men present but one. He had come a little late and had stood far back. Now he moved to the right."I am glad," said the king in chagrin, "that there is one man capable of exercising self-determination. Tell these sheep-like ones why you alone stand at the right.""Sir," came the reply, "when I left home, my wife told me to keep out of crowds."
—Maxwell Droke
The church does not have a choice here about her submitting to Christ, so there should not be a problem about wives submitting to their own husbands as unto the Lord.

Verses 21-24
The husband is given authority over his wife not for his own benefit but rather for the benefit of the whole family. His authority is to be used to maintain discipline, order, and peace within the family. The husband has no authority to maltreat or abuse his wife. Instead, he is to behave toward her with love and mercy, just as Christ behaved toward us. God has given husbands authority to do good, not to do ill.
2. Vv. 25-30 - Husbands loving wives/Christ loving the church

Read with me about what Christ did to show His love for His bride, the church. Verse 25, He gave Himself UP for her, the church! Jesus died on the cross a cruel death not counting the thrashing as He was whipped. He did that for you and for me. Why did Christ do that, die for me and for you? Jesus was desiring to make us holy through the cleansing and washing of the Word of God. When you read and study the word of God the Spirit of God cleanses you and me making us more like Christ. When that happens then we, the church, can be presented to Christ radiant - “without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.”

This is as much about Christ and the church as it is about husbands and wives. Now if Christ loved the church that much we who are husbands ought to love our wives that way. Give our lives up for her, never a waiver or a doubt, just for her. In every way we ought to love our wives with our own bodies, we don’t hate our bodies but love it and nourishes it, so if we feel that way about our body we much do so much more for her. Do you hate your body husbands? No we don’t, we bath them, feed them, and give them recreation and pleasure, so we need to do the same with our wives, whatever it takes to take care of them. Christ has done it for us. We are all a part of His body.
3. Vv. 31-32 - The mystery of marriage and the church

Marriage is a mystery, but so is the relationship that Christ has with His church. Paul seeks to try to explain them both in this passage for today. It must be very difficult to understand because so many are unwilling or unable to understand what Christ is telling us about them both. As for the marriage of one man to one woman, we are to understand that they both leave their parents and establish a new unit, a home. But Paul seems to really referring to the union between Christ and His church. How does that happen? Jesus Christ bought the church with His own blood and to be a part of that union between Him and His church. One must recognize their sin and then repent of them turning to Christ to forgive them and in exchange, Jesus gives the repentant sinner eternal life because of His resurrection from the dead. The reason it is a mystery is because many are blinded by evil and can’t see the truth, and others don’t care to know.

Others say it is not a mystery as we think of mystery but it is very sacred. Marriage and the union between God and His church are very sacred and holy and should not be misunderstood or sought to defile them in any way.
4. V. 33 - Husbands love, wives respect

Do you realize that Paul does not say that wives ought to love their husbands but that they ought to “respect” them. What does that mean? To hold in high esteem. To not degrade them or put them down but to build them up. When the wives build up their husbands men will do just about anything they can to earn that respect. A wife that nags or constantly puts her husband down for just about anything is not respecting him in anyway.
On True Love
If my children would ask "Mom, how do I find true love?" this is what I'd say—
"Love is a state of mind and heart. It is not dependent on beauty, physical strength or the romantic settings.
"Your Dad doesn't arrange intimate dinners or second honeymoons. He doesn't bring me flowers. What he does is keep my car repaired and full of gas so I'll never be stranded. He vacuums the carpet when your grandmother is coming—not because he cares, but because he knows I care.
"Though your Dad is not a pet person, when our old cat died, Robert buried him for me. He held me while I wept. After I'd mourned for several months, he encouraged me to adopt a kitten.
"So remember, true romance—the enduring kind—often comes so cleverly disguised it's easy to overlook."
—Nadine Crenshaw
But on the other hand, husbands must love their wives, they have no choice, Christ has commanded it. A man who loves his wife knows her needs.

One morning, as I went to open the freezer, I asked my wife, "What shall I take out for dinner?" Without a moment's hesitation, she replied, "Me."

I read the following recently and wanted to share it with you. Marriages need this kind of description.
To Love Children's Mom
We were taking a walk and holding a serious father-to-son conversation. I asked my fifteen-year-old son:
"Son, if anyone should ask you what you liked best about your dad, what would you say?"
He paused for a moment and said, "I'd say that the thing I like best about my dad is that he loves my mom.
"Naturally I asked, "Son, why would you say that?"
He replied, "I know because you love Mom you're going to treat her right. We will always be a family, because I know how much Mom loves you."
Then he said some words that verbalize the feelings of children all over America, "That means, Dad, that I will never have to choose between you and Mom."
I had no way of knowing it at that point, but that very day one of his closest friends had been given the choice of living with mom or dad.
Today consider making a recommitment to your wife, husbands, and wives to your husbands. It might change your marriages, won’t hurt.
Today you might consider joining this fellowship through transfer of your letter or by your profession of faith in Christ as Lord and Savior.What has God told you today? Respond if He calls for you to do that.


Dear friend if you are reading this by way of the internet please know that you are loved and cared for. If you have no relationship with God the Father through Jesus Christ His Son, then I invite you to trust Him by faith and receive Him as your personal Savior. Jesus Christ died on the cross for the sin of everyone in the world that they may have eternal life. All of us have sinned and all are guilty before Almighty God who made us to have fellowship with Him. But sin broke that ability to have a relationship and Jesus has restored the possibility to know God personally through His sacrifice. Please know that if you will seek God and turn from your sin and pray He will respond with His love and give to you a personal relationship through your belief in His Son and the sacrifice He made just for you. He will call for a change in your life too. He wants you to follow Him, not the world, not your own desires, but to follow Jesus. That brings a life change when you turn from sin and self and by faith believe in Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord. There is no Savior without Him being Lord of your life. Your willingness to change by following Him daily in your life will be the proof of your faith. When life throws its curves your way and you have found yourself broken by others or by the world let us introduce you to the only One who can help you…Jesus! You can write or call the office and we will follow up by contacting you. Office phone number is 864-225-2575 and the website address is and the physical address is 2308 N. Main St., Anderson, SC 29621. Dear friend if you are a believer and you have been touched by the Lord and you would like to talk to someone at the church just contact us in one of the ways you see above. If you are a believer and would like to talk about the church and your interest in being a part, please call and we can set up an appointment for you and get to know you. It would be a great pleasure to share our Lord’s love with you. This is a loving church and you are important to us, so please let us know what we can do for you in the Lord.Pastor Bill Rigsby