Every human has faults, weaknesses, delusions, distortions, emotions that are not totally mature, lapses in judgment, and many other things that can cause problems…That is inescapable. But, the trouble that those things cause us is very escapable, to the degree that we can observe them. When we can see ourselves and what we are doing, we can always do something about it. But, not until.-Henry Cloud, Integrity, ch. 8