Love Without a Hook. Agape and Eros are two words that come from the Greek language. They are two of at least four words used to express love. Agape love is the way that God loves. It is unconditional in its desire and heart for you. God doesn’t need you to do anything or even change in order to love you. He loves you because He chooses to. Because He IS Love.
But, you should note that walking in a relationship with Him is conditional. Love is unconditional but blessing, reward, and glory are conditional.
Eros love is the way people love. It originally referred to the physical love between a husband and wife. It was love wrapped in covenant and enjoyed in physical contact. But, by the time the New Testament was written, it had come to mean something far darker and far more selfish. Eros is love that gets something.
Agape leads to God. Eros leads to self. That’s the hook. I love you, but I need something. I expect something.
Fruit Not Bait. So, if our righteousness is meant to lure people toward us, that’s not fruit. It’s bait. What I give must be to you but toward the Father. My love, gentleness, kindness, and so on cannot seek a return and still be Agape.
This isn’t to say you don’t or can’t have needs. We get our needs met by honestly communicating them. We don’t love to get love. That’s selfish. We love because God loves. We love because the God of Love lives within us. We love because God’s love is so bright within us that we cannot help but love.