If I want to be wise:
3) I won’t be inconsiderate of your feelings.
Philippians 4:5 Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do.
Two foolish mistakes we make in relationships:
a) We react to what people say and ignore how people feel.
• When our emotions are high, our intelligence is low.
• Unkind people are those who need your kindness the most.
Romans 15:2 ...we must bear the “burden” of being considerate of the doubts and fears of others—of those who feel these things are wrong. Let’s please the other fellow, not ourselves, and do what is for his good and thus build him up in the Lord.
b) We invalidate any feelings we don’t feel ourselves.
When we invalidate other people’s feelings, we are not only minimizing their feelings, we are also minimizing that person.
Proverbs 15:4 A soothing tongue [speaking words that build up and encourage] is a tree of life, but a perversive tongue [speaking words that overwhelm and depress] crushes the spirit.
Friends offer kind words not remedies.