"Those who live a monastic life (monks and nuns) regularly practiced the discipline of silence. They do so for many reasons, but one is to counter the sins of the tongue, such as lying or gossip. Practicing this discipline teaches them the power of words and gives them greater control over their tongues. Most of us are not monks or nuns, but we can also practice this discipline to help us learn how to bridle our tongues.
"If we do not speak, we cannot lie. We cannot gossip. We cannot hurt others with our words. So, we practice silence to have better control over our tongues. We will not become proficient overnight, but in time (as with all of the tools we use) we will see progress.
"There are two exercises to choose from this week. The main exercise is a very challenging discipline, one which needs a lot of preparation.
GOING A DAY WITHOUT WORDS
"The first exercise is to go a day without speaking. This is the primary spiritual tool this week, so if you can only do one of the two, do this one. It is very challenging and takes a lot of planning and preparation.
"In our world, how is this possible?
"First, choose a day when this will be less of a problem for you. For many, the weekend works best. You can choose to go from sundown to sundown, Friday evening to Saturday evening, for example.
"Some warnings:
1. Be sure to let others know you were doing this. Silence creates suspicion and concern. People will ask whether you are OK. If someone calls you and you do not respond, they may get unnecessarily concerned. Thus, you may want to send an email or text message to your family and friends to let them know what you were doing.
2. If you are asked to speak and it is beneficial to do so, then speak. Charity overrides all discipline. If someone is about to be hit by a bus, by all means yell.
3. In many cases, you can use hand gestures or written notes if you feel you must communicate. Tip: keep a notepad around so that you can communicate with others when necessary. (However, this does not include texting!)
"Most people find this to be a wonderful experience. Don't be afraid of it. Be aware of speech and of people and things around you, which increase dramatically.
GOING A DAY WITHOUT LYING
"For some, the first exercise is an impossibility. If that is the case, then choose one day this week to be a “Lie-Free Day.” Do your very best not to lie to anyone for an entire day. If you do lie, try your best to correct it on the spot. Simply say, “You know, what I said was not true. The truth is ...” You may be afraid people will be upset or disappointed with you, but I have found the opposite. Most people find it refreshing. And correcting yourself will help prevent the next lie."
(from The Good and Beautiful Life, by James Bryan Smith, pp.117-118)