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Family Matters - Part 2: Marriage
There are a lot of opinions these days about marriage, family and singleness—opinions that are often contradictory and unhelpful. In this series, Family Matters, we will be looking at various Bible passages to help us understand God’s design and plan for some of the most significant relationships we will ever have.
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Family Matters - Part 2: Marriage [April 15, 2018] Tim Haring

Problem: We don't understand what gets in the way of a good marriage.

Solution: Selfishness is the salt in the marriage wound

We need to view things differently
• Apart from God, we should view our spouse as the most important person in our life.
• Apart from God, we should view our spouse as the most important person
in our life.
• We should view our spouse’s interests as being important to us.
Things Women Want:

• Don't ever lie to us; we always find out.
• If you're in a bad mood, we're going to assume it's our fault. So, tell us
what's bothering you.
• Quit complaining about your boss. Find another job.
• Sunday is usually the only day we can relax. Be flexible about the all
day sports rule.
• Buy yourself some decent clothes.
• Pay attention. We like to give clues. "Susie and Bob tried a great new
restaurant" means "Why don't you ever take us anywhere nice?"
• Yes, it's true. Sometimes we like to call up and talk about nothing. Get
used to it.
• The kissing must never stop.
• If you ask us what's wrong and we say nothing, ask us again. And this
time, look sincere.
• When we say something, it's necessary for you to respond. At the very
minimum, nod your head.
• Real men run dishwashers and dust furniture.
• If you only knew how much a tender word, a thoughtful act, or an
unexpected gift means to us, you would do it, and your life would
improve exponentially.
• When no one's home, stand in front of a mirror and practice this until
you can say it in public: "I was wrong."
• After you've mastered that, work on "I'm sorry."
Men's Rules for Women:

• If you ask a question you don't really want an answer to, expect an
answer you didn't want to hear.
• Sometimes, we're not thinking about you. Live with it.
• Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to
discuss topics such as navel lint, the shotgun formation, and monster
• When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine.
• Ask for what you want. Let's be clear on this one: Subtle hints don't work.
Strong hints don't work. Really obvious hints don't work. Just say it!
• No, we don't know what day it is. We never will. Mark anniversaries on a
calendar you know we check.
• We're not mind-readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading
ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
• Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we
do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
• Anything we said six months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All
comments become null and void after seven days.
• If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways
makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
• You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done, not
• Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during
• Our relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we
were going out.
• If we ask what's wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing's
wrong. We know you're lying, but it's just not worth the hassle.
• Apart from God, we should view our spouse as the most important person
in our life.
• We should view our spouse’s interests as being important to us.
• We should view ourselves as servants to our spouse

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