This Is Us: Before You Give Up, Look Up
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Relationships are filled with both wonder and pain. The good times and the bad. The happy and the sad.

When it is all said and done, our relationships are the most important things in our lives. As Christ followers, those relationships would include God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit.
Deep down, we all know that relationships are important- but sometimes we don’t realize how important they are until we are faced with losing them.
Our priorities regarding relationships will be revealed when we face difficult choices.
Nothing in this life is more important than our relationships.
The better we are at relationships, the more we look like God.
Following Him won’t always be easy, but it will always be rewarding. It requires faith and patience- faith and patience with God, faith and patience with ourselves and with others.

(It is through “faith and patience that we inherit God’s promises” Hebrews 6:12)
Before Randy & Kim gave up they looked up. They gave God the opportunity to bring their dead relationship back to life.

Both Randy and Kim had to make some tough decisions to change and become more intentional about pursuing God first. Then, they asked God to help them work on themselves. They both had to be willing to make changes.

Ultimately, they had to make their relationship with God and one another their highest priority.
What brought them to this place? PAIN. God allows pain in our lives to bring gain in our lives.

C.S. Lewis said, God whispers in our pleasure but shouts in our pain.
We are not as likely to change when we see the light as when we feel the heat! (Rick Warren)

We are much more open to change when the fear of change is exceeded by the pain we are experiencing.

God will allow us to experience pain to bring us back to him and to what’s important.
Romans 5:3-4
Paul says we can rejoice here and now, even when we go through trials and troubles, for they will produce perseverance in us and help us develop a mature character. This word for “character” means “to be tested and proved reliable.” It is “character shaped by fire.”
God wants us to come back to him, and he’s serious about growing us up into the character of his Son. But in order to do this, we have to go through the fires of life and what we do through that time, will make us or break us. How we handle them can make us bitter or better.
Here are 4 things we take away from Randy and Kim’s story:

1. They turned back to God and began making their relationship with God their highest priority.

Matt. 6:33 Seek FIRST the Kingdom of God and his righteousness and all of these things will be added unto you.) They recognized they could not do this on their own
2. They forgave each other – Instead of constantly rehearsing their hurt over and over, they began to release it! They had a choice: become bitter or better.

Mark 11:22-26
Then Jesus said to the disciples, “Have faith in God. I tell you the truth, you can say to this mountain, ‘May you be lifted up and thrown into the sea,’ and it will happen. But you must really believe it will happen and have no doubt in your heart. I tell you you, can pray for anything, and if you believe that you’ve received it, it will be yours. But when you are praying, first FORGIVE anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.”
3. They FIXED their thoughts on God and His Word – Kim said she had developed some bad habits. All of our bad habits can be traced back to our thoughts. We have to become aware of our thought life – think about what you are thinking about.

Proverbs 4:23 (Good News) “Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.”

Philippians 4:8 “Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. This about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”

Ephesians 5:33b “So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

Christian marriages should be marked by love and respect and when this occurs, even in a hurting marriage, the miracles that God can do through this will astound you!
4. They prayed for each other and began looking for the good.

It’s amazing how praying for someone will change your perspective of that person. When someone tells me that someone has hurt them and they don’t know how they can get past it, the first thing I tell them is to begin PRAYING for them! They always seem surprised by this…but it’s amazing how this works.

Kim prayed - Luke 22:40 (Jesus praying on the Mount of Olives) God sent an angel to strengthen him.

When we pray for someone, we are inviting God to move in our hearts AND in theirs. Prayer is a supernatural action…we are inviting God to change us and change them in a way only He can do.
Hebrews 11:6 says, God is a rewarder of those who diligently seek him!

Before you give up, look up! Give God an opportunity to do something miraculous in your life.