Fresh Fire For Couples

Day 7 of 7 • This day’s reading



Do you know any stubborn people? You know that person that when they’re convinced of something, you cannot change their mind? We do! Richard’s mother. When his mother is sure of something, you cannot talk her out of it. She will stand on the Word, and she will declare the Word. She is relentless. 

I (Richard) remember one day she told me I would become a preacher. When she said this, I did not believe her because that was not what I wanted to do with my life. I had other things in mind. I wanted to be a music producer, but God had other plans. However, year after year, she continued to declare that one day I would become a preacher. And guess what? That one day finally happened. It took years to come to pass, but she continued declaring it. 

What I love about my mom is that my circumstances never changed her declaration, but her declaration changed my circumstances. 

Imagine what would happen if we learned to declare God’s promises over our relationships. Imagine what would drastically change if we stood on and declared the Word of God. We would get our fire back! We would also get our joy and peace back. This happens when we declare the Word. Romans 4:17 (CSB) says, “God, who gives life to the dead and calls things into existence that do not exist.” This passage is a clear reminder to keep declaring what you want to see, as though it existed. 

If you want to see your relationship be full of joy, then declare words of encouragement. If you want to see your relationship unified, then declare words of unity. If you want to see your relationship get its sexy back, then declare words of love. You need to sow the seeds you want to see grow. Remember, your future is in your mouth and it is directly linked to the words you are declaring in the present. 


What words have you been speaking into your relationship / marriage? Are your words creating life or death in your relationship? What do you want to see occur in your relationship and what words do you need to start speaking to see the fruit of your desires?


Heavenly Father, You are the giver of life! You call things that are not as though they are. As Your child, I was to create life in my relationship and I also want to call things that are not as though they are, just as You do. Help me to do so and reveal to me toxic words that I need to eradicate from my vocabulary, so I may edify my partner and create life in my relationship. In Jesus' name.