Kevin DeYoung: The Church + Friendship
Friendship is the most common form of a relationship and yet the least talked about relationship.
If you could measure church satisfaction it would probably be based on quality of teaching and the quality of friendship within the church.
Quality friendship is becoming harder and harder to find. Mobility and technology are chief factors of this difficulty in friendship. A lot of times in NT sharing in fellowship was done with food and was face to face. We have friends everywhere but friends nowhere.
Friends are there for you because they want to be there for you even if they don't have to be.
Proverbs 20:6 ESV
"Many a man proclaims his own steadfast love,
but a faithful man who can find?"
Proverbs warns against involving money with friendships.
The friends we have are they for authentic reasons or for what we hope to gain from the frienship? There is a constant danger of using people for what they have. Those who are most desperate for friends usually have the hardest time finding them. You find friends when you learn to be yourself. We should be looking at how we can fill others up.
Are you a follower friend?
You are quick to criticize. (A relentless barrage of criticism).
"The Christian is someone who has learned to cover their mouth."
Proverbs 11:12 ESV
"Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense,
but a man of understanding remains silent."
A lot of times it is just better to just be silent.
We often ruin relationships because we are insensitive.
Am I a rude or annoying friend?
Proverbs 25:17 ESV
"Let your foot be seldom in your neighbor's house,
lest he have his fill of you and hate you."
Foul friends cannot be trusted. Proverbs 23:20-11
Foul friends do not are not trustworthy & do not watch their words.
What about a faithful friend?
1) You are there in times of trouble.
Real friendship is proven in adversity.
Who do I have in my life that I know I can call anytime when my life starts to crumble?
2) A friend keeps no record of wrong
We place these negative thoughts into a people that have hurt me filing cabiinet. Faithful friends never seek revenge and are ready to forgive.
Oftentimes we talk with people instead of talking to the person we have a problem with.
3) Faithful friends make each other better.
Your closest friendships should be with gospel centered friends.
As a friend you can be a sponge, swords, or stone. Stones sharpen others and nasty out ther rough edges making them more christ-like.
Jesus is the greatest example of a friend
John 15:13-16 ESV
Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you.
NEVER HAS THERE BEEN A GREATER FRIEND THAN CHRIST!!!
1) Who has been a faithftul friend to me? thank them
2) How have they been a thankful friend to me? Study them
3) In what way(s) can I be a faithful friend? Emulate them
4) Do I have the right friends? Are they faithful? If not, find them!
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