God's role for husband and wife in marriage
- Genesis 2:15 (KJV)
- Genesis 2:16 (KJV)
- Genesis 2:17 (KJV)
- Genesis 3:16 (KJV)
- Genesis 4:7 (KJV)
- Ephesians 2:2 (KJV)
- Ephesians 5:22 (KJV)
- Ephesians 5:23 (KJV)
- Ephesians 5:24 (KJV)
- Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
Using as sources:
1. Hebraic Roots Teaching Institute - Understanding the mysterious spirit world - www.hrti.co.za
2. Joy Magazine - Gender hierarchy in the home - www.joymag.co.za
After reading the article in the Joy magazine, I felt inspired to write this short "teaching" with regards to God's roles for the husband and the wife in marriage.
7 If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him.
Translating this verse into a more understandable version, would result in this:
7 If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee[Cain] shall be his[sin] desire, and thou[Cain] should[must] rule over him[sin].
16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
Desire above, is the same word used in Gen4:7, where Sin's desire shall be for Cain, if he "doest not well". With this same "desire" a wife will (and must) desire her husband.
Similarly, rule, above, is the same word used in Gen4:7, where Cain must rule over sin. A wife's husband will in the same manner rule over her.
Woman's curse due to the sin committed in the garden of eden is three fold:
She shall bare children into the world with difficulty and pain (still in effect today)
Her desire shall be for her husband
Her husband shall rule over her
If point number one still stands, surely points number 2 and 3 should also still stand.
Man's curse is as follows:
Cursed is the ground [earth] and thorns and thistles will it bring forth (still in effect today)
In sorrow shall we eat of it all the days of our lives
We will have to work for our food, until we die (note, no retirement mentioned here. Work till you die).
Satan's curse is as follows:
Onto his belly he shall go
Cursed is he above all animals
Dust shall he eat
Do snakes eat dust? No, they do not. So, what is meant with point number 3 above? The answer is in Gen 3:19b.
for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.
Satan's curse is to persecute humans. The Bible says that we should rejoice and be glad, if we are persecuted. Satan does not have a choice in the matter.
So, if he has no choice, why should we have a choice in our curses? A curse, after all, is something that you do not choose, but is placed over you. You have no choice but to obey the terms of the curse, just like the earth has no choice to bring forth thorns and thistles.
If we do not obey God, this is what the Bible say about us:
2 Wherein in time past ye walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the children of disobedience:
The Bible says that, if we disobey God, we allow the Spirit of the prince of the power of the air (Satan), to work in us.
Therefore, every woman who says that she will not allow her husband to rule over her, and that her desire is not for her husband, allows the spirit of Satan to work inside of her.
God does not tell Woman to love their husbands in Eph 5:22-25, because woman are inherently loving beings. Loving comes naturally to them. This is not the same for men. God rather instructs wives to submit themselves to their own husbands, as the church submits itself to Christ. The husband is the head of the wife, just like Christ is the head of the church.
And if you thought this was a one sided teaching, you're wrong. Here comes the other side.
Husbands, love your wives as Christ loves the church, even dying for her.
How many wives has issues submitting to their husbands? Husbands, it is YOUR fault! Your wife loves you, and submits to you, in the same manner as you love her, protect her and provide for her. How many husbands loves their wives enough to die for her? No, not just while you're dating initially, but even after you've been married for many years? How can we expect our wives to submit to us, if we do not take care of her every need? If we do not make sure that she is cared for, loved, and told how much we love them, every day?
Husbands, WE need to shape up, and start showing our wives how much we love them. Only THEN, will they submit to us. How many wives would be feminists if we loved them enough to die for them, and SHOWED this to them every day of our lives together? My bet is very few, if any at all.
After all, God made us priests, prophets and kings of our own houses, not?
Priests in the old covenant took responsibility for the spiritual condition of the nation. They primarily made offers to God in atonement for the sins of people. Similarly, husbands must make atonement for the sins of his family, in front of God daily, pleading for their forgiveness always.
Prophets in the old covenant brought God's word to the people. Similarly, husbands are responsible for finding out God's plan for his family, and instructions from God (either by just listening, or reading God's word), and relaying this information to his family, and directing their paths in obedience to this message from God (part of Kingship).
Kings in the old covenant took care of the physical requirements of the nation. He also protected them, and directed them, according to the words of the prophets. Similarly, husbands are responsible to look after the physical wellbeing of his family. Direct them in their ways, and take up dominion over them. "Rule" over them, and keep them safe, secure, and on the right path.
God holds MAN responsible for all these things, not woman. To prove this, look at who God kept responsible for the sin in the Garden of Eden.
15 And the Lord God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.
16 And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat.17 But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.
This instruction was given to Adam before Eve was made in verse 21. Eve was NEVER responsible. The instruction was given to Adam, and he was responsible to relay this message from God, to Eve, as the prophet of his household. He was then also responsible for directing Eve's path, as King of his house.
If you also look at the curses given, the whole earth was cursed because of Adam, not Eve. The words "keep it" in verse 15, means to "guard it" or to "protect it". There was nothing else to protect it from, than from Satan. The trees was in the middle of the garden, not at the edge of it. Adam was not doing his job to keep the garden, which is why they sinned. God holds Adam responsible for that, and still holds man responsible today, to be the ruler of his house.
There is a huge amount that can still be said about this, but I think I'll end this off here.
Husbands, start taking responsibility for your wives, your children, their physical and spiritual condition, and your house in general. Become the man that God wants you to be! Love your wives and TELL THEM this, every day! Become the husbands that they know you can be, and that they love you to be. And ultimately, accept the responsibility that God has placed on YOU, to take care, love and nurture your household, and become the priest, prophet and king that God wants you to be.
Reach your potential in everything you do. It's never too late.
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